I really like this guy and he just keeps messing me around, i am desprate to forget and move on! what can i think about to stop me thinking of him as it is driving me mad, its Xmas day and i want to enjoy my self! good advice pleas ta xx
2006-12-24 22:18:06 · 25 answers · asked by red devil 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There are young, attractive and real decent men out there......and you'll find one babe honest! He obviously has issues and a fear of commitment.........move on and find a good guy Hun and stop goin' after wasters!
2006-12-24 22:25:42 · answer #1 · answered by JackLove 2 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Just MOVE ON! Just let him go! In AA we learn that "this too shall pass!" but only if you let it! We hang onto these kinds of things for many reasons. but what it is, is always for an unhealthy reason. However, we only hang on because we ARE getting something from hanging on. Figure out what you are getting from hanging onto this guy, and you'll be able to let him go. It is only bringing you misery so you know it isn't a healthy thing you are getting out of this. Sometimes it is just martyrdom, hope he will sitll want you, control of him and his life, shame; that he doesn't want me, what ever, it isn't going to be a healthy thing for you. Above all else don't go find someone else until you get him out of your system, that just compounds the problem, and you end up bringing him into the new relationship, and it won't be fair to the next person. So re-build your life without him! Find an enjoyment in finding out who you are without him! Have FUN! It is hard work, but well worth the work at the end. You find YOU!
2006-12-24 22:45:05 · answer #2 · answered by Ikeg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I recently had to get over someone. It was hard at first. But I wrote down this little note to myself on an index card and every time I thought of him, I pulled it out and read it. It helped so much! It read : Sometimes in life you just have to give up on something that you had hopes for .
That was fitting for my situation, but there may be something else that's fitting for yours. Like: '
1) A relationship should make you feel better not worse!
2) No man is worth your tears and the one who is won't make you cry.
Decorate the card, make it pretty. Also erase his number from your phone so you're not tempted to call him!
Good luck. He soooooo doesn't deserve you.
2006-12-24 22:32:10 · answer #3 · answered by Princesa Morenita 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to stop thinking about someone who you still have feelings for . go out and do something different , although it will be hard today as it must be one of the most boring days of the year ( baa bumhug ) just stick in there friend and you will forget . time is the only healer here xx
2006-12-25 01:59:29 · answer #4 · answered by bob a builder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet heart you need to find yourself a gay man to take you out clubbing! Mending ladies hearts is what we do best, it involves making sure you look great so he knows exactly what he is missing, partying of course and making yourself a better person. improving yourself is always good you become better and can expect better and you become out of THEIR league! Start thinking about what you wanna do with life and how you can become more organised, make a new years plan and one you can stick to in the areas of fitness, health, career or education, travel or things you want to do for fun and how to be a bit more organised, once you start doing this you are gonna start to realise how fabulous a human can become and start becoming that human!
2006-12-25 00:48:15 · answer #5 · answered by walk like a panther 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you could go out with me instead and I would treat you sooo nice you'd forget him in an instant! lol.
No seriously, it's never easy when you really like someone to let them go, however if he is messing you around and you know its the right thing to do logically, then dont listen to your heart as it will hurt you even more later on and as time goes by it will get easier and easier, have fun with your other friends and family and keep your mind off of him.
2006-12-24 22:38:18 · answer #6 · answered by erik w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are aplenty though good ones are not easily available. Go out and enjoy yourself during Christmas; read some intersting books when you are at home. Visit some of your friends also. Make merry.
Merry Christmas and best of luck to you.
2006-12-24 22:24:51 · answer #7 · answered by JP E 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Glad you've straightened out your thoughts. Move on. Do things you enjoy most. Mix around with your guy and girl friends. This way time will fly and eventually he'll be out of your mind in no time.
2006-12-24 22:22:17 · answer #8 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't get hung up on one guy. Date around and meet other guys. If you don't date around, there is no way you are going to find the guy that is right for you. If you just go out with one person for the rest of your life, you will never meet the guy you are supposed to be with.
2006-12-24 22:28:45 · answer #9 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go out with ur friends and enjoy the life of freedom, be true 2 urself..if ur hurt its fine its natural.. the time will heal it. But for now its CHRISTMAS!! be happy
2006-12-25 00:36:22 · answer #10 · answered by jhy10!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋