As a result of this we are the only family left and there has been no time to think about Christmas. It's a very bleak day and I can't think how to make the best of it or get over this.
2006-12-24 22:09:26 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sweetheart there are millions of others who are sad not only this Christmas but every Christmas and all the days in between. I know its not going to be an easy ride for you and its something only you can face yourself and go through with it, I am very sorry to hear this and I can imagine how hard it must be for you as I have lost close ones too. But you must stay strong and face the days as they will inly get easier not harder, there is a good saying that I live by which is: " whatever doesn't kill you, makes you stronger", I hope you have a firm belief in God no matter what religion you are, he will be behind you, try to keep close to your friends and relatives which will support you through these hard times.
2006-12-24 22:29:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My mother died a week before Easter and this is my first Christmas without her. My friend just called me shortly after midnight to tell me that her mother just passed away, and worse is that Christmas day is her mother's birthday. So there seems to be a lot of sadness and grief, but the message of Christmas is Life, Love, Peace and Joy. Our loved ones are gone but they may be in a much better place, not even thinking about us. This is where we are, and although this time is painful, it too will pass.
Try to think positive thoughts even though you are unable to celebrate in the way that you normally would. There are many ways that we grieve, and so let your grief flow freely. Do what you feel like doing. Perhaps a quite Christmas with just your closest loved ones is all you need.You still have each other, and each day is a new day.
2006-12-24 22:42:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no, how sad! This is not going to be a Merry Christmas for you. If you can, try to remember Christmases past when you had fun times and happy memories.
Look at old photo albums to honour the memory of your mother and mother-in-law. Heart breaking to do, but by doing it, you acknowledge the loss you feel and move to a place where you can start to get past it... not this year, but maybe next year will be better.
I wish you both peace and love this Christmas, and hope next year brings better things.
2006-12-24 22:28:43 · answer #3 · answered by RM 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi, this is the first christmas without my mum, she died seven months ago. I am really missing her a lot especially today Christmas Day.I am just cheering up because of my four kids. Life carries on and I am sure your mum the same as mine want us to be happy. I hope 2007 brings better things for all of us.
2006-12-25 04:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by superstar68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! I'm wendy from malaysia. Everyone has their sad story or the past event but you must keep on living or even keep on believed in God, and pray to tell him your suffering. That's might be better. I'm very sorry of that too but you must be open minded ok. Try to be happy all the time because i think your mum and mother in law don't like to see you're sad right now. Merry X'mas!
2006-12-25 00:11:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat.
I have just got divorced, i'm 200 miles from my mates.
My daughter is dead and watching my other children opening their presents was awful.
I should have my sister here but I told her to stuff it as she said I expect everyone to feel sorry for me [i don't] and was telling me that I had to decorate my bathroom before she came for Xmas
I don't have parents as my Dad is living with my ex- [my ex was violent]
And my mum couldn't give a stuff about anyone.
The only thing that I can think about is that there is only a week left of this dreadful year.
I am so going to get tough, and sod anyone who tries to make me feel bad.
You can do it.
2006-12-25 00:02:03 · answer #6 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart there are millions of others who are sad not only this christmas but every christmas and all the days in between. I know its not going to be an easy ride for you and its something only you can face yourself and go through with it, I am very sorry to hear this and I can imagine how hard it must be for you as I have lost close ones too. But you must stay strong and face the days as they will inly get easier not harder, there is a good saying that I live by which is: " whatever dont kill you, makes you stronger", I hope you have a firm belief in god no matter what religion you are, he will be behind you, try to keep close to your friends and relatives which will support you through these hard times.
2006-12-24 22:26:02 · answer #7 · answered by erik w 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Im sorry to hear that! you will never get over it! you will learn to " accept" it!
Just think to your self ' would mum and mother in law ' want you to be sad at Xmas? there probably up there together looking down on you wishing you would cheer up for Xmas! there not here in the flesh but they will always be by your side in spirit looking out for you! im a big believer i don't no if you are but if so it is a big comfort! i hope this helps merry Xmas xx
2006-12-24 22:29:06 · answer #8 · answered by red devil 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My father just passed away on the 12th. It will be hard on me today having Christmas without him. He would have wanted me to go on. He has 3 granddaughters, (17 & twins 23 months), that have to be without him to. The 17 year old understands but the babies don't.
2006-12-24 22:25:54 · answer #9 · answered by Donna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry for you. I lost my grandad just before Christmas and although there's nothing anyone can say to you now to make it any easier, it really does ease with time. Although we all still miss him, we can now talk about my grandad without us all getting upset and remember the happy times we had with him.
I wish you all the best x
2006-12-24 22:20:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋