what should i do about my relationship when i go away to the army? (read bellow for more details)?

Question

ok ya'll me and my gf have been dateing for about a yr im a senior in high school she is a junior! im going away to BCT (Basic Combat Training) for the army July 5th of 2007 in the past i havent had much luck with long distance relationships...how ever none of them were also not as serious as this one is...what should i do about this i mean i like her a lot and she wants to stay together whent aht time comes if we are still dateing but yea and i no i have some time im jsut looking for some feed back on this so get back to me plz plz plz plz oh yea and thnx haha

Answer 1

set your girlfriend free

Answer 2

Unless you marry her before you leave, you may as well cut her loose as a girlfriend. Tell her to date other people but you would like to keep in touch with writing once or twice a month. You'll meet women in the military and in traveling just as she can meet other guys. If when you come out, she still thinks you are the best man she knows, it was meant to be and you should pick up where you left off. I'm saying this because it's almost impossible to maintain a relationship with going months at a time without seeing the person.

Answer 3

You said that you like her, but not that you love her. If you aren't absolutely crazy about her, its almost impossible. I am married to a soldier, and it is the hardest job in the world. Even though we are married, and I live in Germany with him, I hardly ever see him. I see marriages and relationships fall apart every day. The military will test your patience and faithfulness to the limits. You are still so young, I doubt very seriously that you are ready to get married. Just be fair to yourself and to her, and see where it goes. You have a small while until you leave; do some serious thinking. This is not an easy problem to deal with, I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 4

I know somebody personally who got married to an enlisted man who was scheduled to go off for either training or combat (not sure which). This was several years ago, but last I heard, they were still together, so it is possible.

You do need to ask yourself if you think you can be committed to her, though, if you're that far away from her for long periods of time. Of course, she'll have to ask the same question of herself, and the two of you will need to be honest with each other about how you each answer that question for yourself. There are, as you're well aware I'm sure, plenty of stories to go around about guys that go off to serve in the military and have some "surprizes" to bring back to their wife or girl friend when they get back. You don't want to be one of those people.

I wish you the best of luck.