im confused. ok i dont no if i should give up on this guy or not. I likr him and he lykes me but he hasnt asked me out yet. We always talk togetha bout life and stuff. yesterday we were talking at nite for 6 hours. at the time nearing the end of our conversation he bought up a question. he asked me if girls fantasize about havin sex wen they see a hot guy . it was an awkward questions for me. do u think he loves me or just wants sex?or if u have any comments..plz have ur say.
2006-12-24 20:57:05 · 22 answers · asked by cute_lil_surfer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we r 13 but from were i am sex is commen at this age.
2006-12-24 21:07:32 · update #1
OK..First of all: love is a word too big to be brought into this discussion. And second: although u found this question to be awkward, once u stay and think for a minute it isn't like that at all. Whether u like it or not, sex is part of our life, and it keeps getting more and more important as time goes by. It is true, a few time ago it was kinda ta-bu subject, but now the "sex topic" is as common as...let's say...listening to music! So in an era that promotes and gives a great importance to sex questions like "do girls fantasize about having sex wen they see a hot guy?" are not out of order. On the other hand, it is obvious that he is more experienced in this subject than u are. As a prove we have your "cry for help" here. Remember that: a guy will almost never give up an opportunity to have sex! But this doesn't mean your guy is only interested in having sex with you. In this case maybe he would have asked u out already. My advice is for you not to waste any more time by limiting yourself to only simple conversations with him. This could have 2 implications:
1. You fall for him because his "sweet talks" and maybe this is what he is waiting for.
2. This potential relationship evolves into a simple friendship relation, which would be not so good, since you clearly have feelings for him.
So ask him out, or at least make him ask u out! Good luck!
2006-12-24 21:24:51 · answer #1 · answered by Ciumpirik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't asked you out yet then obviously he isn't just wanting sex. You also talked on the phone for 6 hours... I don't think that is a wierd question for him to ask you, maybe he just feels comfortable enough to ask. He probably likes you or thinks you are a great friend and loves talking to you. If he hasn't asked you out yet that doesn't mean he doesn't like you, maybe he just wants to get to know you really well first. Don't give up on him or let him go just yet. Give him some more time and if you can't handle that then you should tell him how you feel. Give it a chance and see what he says.
2006-12-25 05:00:42 · answer #2 · answered by bdsaintserver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't say that he loves you, not enough info really. Of course he wants to have sex with you, he's a guy! If you guys talk that long on the phone, I'm sure he likes you or he'd hang up after 5 minutes. Just ask him what he wants. Don't ask about the sex thing, just ask if he wants a relationship or a phone buddy.
2006-12-25 05:01:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its too early to talk love but ask him be aggressive if you like this guy and go after him also just because a guy talks about sex doesnt meen thats all hes interested in find out what hes interested in if i want a woman for a purely sexual relationship im upfront with them this guy is definately not using you for sex if he was he would have made a move last night
2006-12-25 05:02:01 · answer #4 · answered by wylted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are 13. you are just a kid, and so is he. you are someone he can talk to, and find out more abt girls, satisfy his curiosity. you can do the same with him, but don't expect more. seems you are pretty comfortable with each other, so if he wanted to ask you out, he would already. and, just because its common to have sex at the age 13, it doesn't mean you should do the same.
2006-12-25 06:31:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he asked.."do girls fantasize about having sex when they see a hot guy?"......not "I love you" or "do you want to have sex with me?".....if the question was too awkward for you to answer then tell the guy......and ask him why do you ask that?......if you can sit and chat for 6 hours about "life and stuff" I would think communicating to one other was a little easier.....
2006-12-25 05:19:57 · answer #6 · answered by sayasyoulike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't together he can't be in love with you. Possibly just likes you alot. If he asked that question most likely he is either just asking to know if girls fantasize...or he wants just sex.
2006-12-25 05:00:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never have to question whether or not your man loves you. If you have to ask then there's some serious issues there. Love is something you feel. If he loves you you feel it without a doubt. Just as with me. I know without a doubt my man loves me; however we have things to work through in order to have a healthy relationship. Sexual questions should never be awkward. We're grown adults. If you do it, you should be able to talk about it. It's natural. Sometimes men just like to know what goes on in our heads. Our likes and dislikes just like we want to know theirs. Don't get offended.
2006-12-25 05:02:11 · answer #8 · answered by Happy Being Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hon........love doesn't have anything to do with this guy. He is playing you. He charms you, then he sexes you. Another notch on his bedpost. Meanwhile you fall for him becasue of the long conversatons, which makes it seem like he loves you.
If you are young his sex question is very innaproprate.
Move on
2006-12-25 05:01:01 · answer #9 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you two can love each other yet but definetly have a crush or lust, love takes a little time, love is caring deeply for somebody in a special way.
2006-12-25 05:00:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋