I want to call my ex please stop me (advice)? It's been over for 1 wk and I feel like I am going nuts!!?

Question

I started to spill my guts about the whole saga blah! blah! blah! but I would prefer advice on getting my so and so out of the bed and going on with life.
His words haunt me " I am a good man and you will never ever find another man like me" and I am starting to believe those very words. Please pinch me, slap me, shake the hell out of me, but help me get those words out of my head and to help me move on with life. Any advice is welcome or just tell me how you got through this painful time. By the way the getting together with friends is out because my friends are 10+ years older than myself ( I am 39) and they just don't do those types of things.

Answer 1

find a hobbie or something. to help u forget him
he's seem kinda full of himself! F-_- him!
Still id have a damn good reasons to leave someone(reasons gathered throughout the relationship things) and sure in my convictions. i'd vowed never to go back to persons i've left, still did it still left them AGAIN. that some stong relationship if your absolutely sure of convictions for leaving, those you should use remind to yourself that it was best for you and dont call him let him sweat!!!

Answer 2

Resist the urge to call him. Pick up a magazine, a book, watch some tv, make an art collage, write in your journal, keep yourself from calling him. Calling him will not help you feel better. I promise you.

Well, the only thing that you can do is put your relationship with your ex in your PAST where it should be, and try to think of the FUTURE. what you can do now, the PRESENT, is keep yourself busy...do something active that will get you to stop thinking about him. I know that you are having trouble getting out of bed, and being the first week, this is a hard time for you. I am not going to deny it; it is just going to take time until you feel 100% good. But it is your responsibility to make an effort and move on. Any little thing will help. Plan to go for a walk tomorrow, groccery shopping, out for coffee with a friend, get yourself out there and get some fresh air and eat some of your favorite food while you're at it. This is your life, not his. So take control. Empower yourself and tell yourself positive things, such as, "what I am feeling is only temporary." Good luck with everything and I know you will feel better soon. Just give it some time.

Answer 3

What the fu¢I< ? You are 39 years old and asking for this advice? Anyway, here goes: You broke up FOR A REASON. GET OVER IT.

And how good of a man is it that uses psychological warfare on you like "you'll never find a man" like him....

THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT

You don't WANT someone else ...LIKE *HIM*. Get it? If you did, you wouldn't have broken up with HIM in the first place.

Part of the problem is that YOU have some growing up to do... especially at age 39 with this kind of problem.

BUT ! once you GROW UP- you'll realize that you can achieve your goals. You need some freaking confidence in yourself.

Confidence can get you any guy you want.

Stop being a baby. MOVE ON. Don't bother with a rebound relationship- it doesn't help.

Take some time being single, establish yourself and build your confidence up.

you can do it

Answer 4

What you are doing by posting is healthy. It's reaching out, because you know he has some sort of mental control over you....maybe.


It appears he is a BS and you know he';s no good for you. You probably have an abandonment issue, psychologically speaking., Yes, the agony, pain loneliness are miserable. But get through it by planning a great life in great detail without him. Fact is, lots of great guys., And if he were so great, you would really know that In your heart, and also, he would not have to say It. Just that bragger is a whole crock of sh---and you do know that.


Attend CODA meetings immediately and also, Al Anon.

Answer 5

It all depends on why you broke up. By the sounds of what he said, it was because he wasn't all that nice and a bit full of himself, in which case, don't call. Get up, go and get a spa treatment and some new clothes and go find something to divert your mind. And it can be anything. Some sport (I found intense gym sessions are awesome for fogetting an ex.Plus you end up looking hot), a hobby, ANYTHING!!! Even a new guy. Not neccesarilly a relationship, but a little dating. Fill your calender, and slowly it will get easier. But it never goes away. Sorry.

Answer 6

Just tell yourself that you will get through today and only today and not call him. Take it one day at a time. Tell yourself that you can call him tomorrow if you can't take it anymore but not today. Then when tomorrow comes tell yourself that you made it through yesterday without calling so you can do it today too.

Letting go of someone can be so difficult but alot of times it is necessary. Stay busy and avoid things that will trigger memories of him.

Answer 7

Keep busy- do things you've always wanted to do/learn but never had the time to do since he was around. For instance.. Do you enjoy painting? There are may places where you can buy a ceramic bisque (plate, tile, mug, platter, bowl...etc.) and they let you glaise (paint) them there for as long as you need, and if you don't finish that day you can save it there and come back again. It's really relaxing and since your hands are all dirty you can't call him! try it.

Answer 8

Call him.
Make a huge fiasco of it.
He'll feel superior.
And thats what all Men want.
Do it for the betterment of manhood.


Please send all flames to:
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Answer 9

NO
DONT CALL HIM
DONT LOOSE UR PRIDE LADY!!!
F*** HIM
U CAN REPLACE HIM EASILY
U DONT NEED HIM
WHO THE $#$# DOES HE THINK HE IS?
forget his words!!
go party
with anyone u want!!! have fun forget him meet guys party all the way.

does that help?

Answer 10

if u call he wins. and for the record i said the same thing 2 my x and she is married with a great guy.