I love my boyfriend very much and planning on marrying him some day.
My problem is he is very happy right where he is. Living I mean, not that I want to ever move but I would love to travel the world. Visit the pyramids, See the wailing wall, wake up on a tropical beach or even visit the markets in China.
He has told me these things do not interest him.
Should I go alone, join a tour group things like that.?
He has told me he would fine with me going and him staying home.
Do you think he is telling me the truth.?
By the time I get to where I can afford to travel both our children will be grow. His right now is 17 mine is turning 17.
Help.!!
2006-12-24 19:18:24 · 7 answers · asked by LadyCatherine 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
anthony~ Our children are 17. My boyfiend is 46 I am 37
2006-12-24 19:35:08 · update #1
One thing I've leaned is not to create problems where there aren't any. You're talking about completely hypothetical (what if?) situations. Why worry about something that isn't happening yet and may not for years? When the time and opportunity presents itself, go and travel the world, like you want to. If he goes, he goes. If not, you have someone to write to while you're away.
2006-12-24 19:23:09 · answer #1 · answered by Vix 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to figure out whether this traveling bug is a deal-breaker or compromise for you. Would you be ok traveling the world without your [supposed] life partner? How would you feel not being able to relate to him on those levels and that he would literally have no idea what you are talking about when you describe your last trip? It seems to me that somebody who truly cared about you would show more interest than the apathy he has displayed.
Additionally, maybe you can get to the actual reason(s) why he says travel doesn't interest him. Is he afraid of air travel? Does he have a weak stomach for strange foods? Or is he racist and generally averse to other cultures? (You may think I'm joking about that last one but I assure you that I am not). There's an old saying:
"Travel is the enemy of ignorance"
How do you feel that your future husband is literally closed to seeing the rest of the world and is content living in his bubble? Your answer will tell you what you need to know.
2006-12-25 03:24:33 · answer #2 · answered by apulidous 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will be good that both of your children are grown so it would be totally romantic to go visit these types of places just the two of you but at the same time if that is not what he wants out of life chances are he is not going to do it with you, ever! If he does one day change his mind before you are able to go it is not going to be something that HE really enjoys, you know?
If it was me I would like you said in your message, go on one of the tour groups. If he truly loves you and you both have a lot of trust for eachother and are both faithful to eachother I think it would be totally fine. I know someone who has went with a tour group different places (shes 39) because her husband refuses to fly (hes scared to death). Sucks for him on missing out on everything but she gets to see what she really wants to see and she has a great time and he doesn't mind at all.
Whatever you do.. do NOT give up on your dreams.. Go to those places one way or another.. Because face it, sooner or later we will all get to a point in life that we are too old or whatever to do stuff like that..
2006-12-25 03:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by Hot Mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he can really handle you traveling without him, then get a safe group to go with and have a great time.
If he can't handle you traveling alone, then you've got a real dilemma. Find a different boyfriend or don't go.
2006-12-25 03:45:31 · answer #4 · answered by Hank Hill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to go with him. If there's something you really want to do (within reason), you should do it, regardless of what your boyfriend thinks. If he really loves you, you can make it work.
2006-12-25 11:34:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will find lots of boyfriends when your travel so just do it and let the chips fall where they may.
2006-12-25 03:20:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah just go you'll probably end up hooking up with some dude eventually though.
2006-12-25 03:22:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋