we have been seeing each other for two years. i make more than he does but if i do give him what will be the outcome down the road. it is hard for me to think that a man would do this. he says he needs it.
2006-12-24 18:34:48 · 10 answers · asked by wanted 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What does he need it for? If it's something to help both of you, then it's ok, if not, then don't.
2006-12-24 18:39:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say no, I know it sounds mean or cold or harsh. The truth is he should NEVER expect something like money from you for anything. What in the world does he need the money for? Is it a true NEED?
If he needs it now and asking you because you have the better pay, you wont be getting it back.
Be honest and straight to the point, I am sorry I can't lend or give you the money. (Does not matter if you had 100K sitting in the bank doing nothing) it is the principal of the expectation.
I hope this works out for you :)
2006-12-25 02:49:18 · answer #2 · answered by Keanu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't go down that road. It doesn't matter if you make more money, the guy should be self-sufficient. Don't you watch any of those judge shows???? There is always some girl crying because
her boyfriend "borrowed" money for car payments, got a copy of
her credit card and got her to put him on her cell phone, then
dumped her and left her with thousands of dollars in debt.
For some reason some men seem to think that they should be
given whatever they want from their girlfriends, like its their God
given right to mooch off a woman. In a real loving relationship,
gifts are given by either of the lovers because they want to, not
because the other person demanded presents. Find a man
who can stand on his own 2 feet, not lounge around while you
wait on him hand and foot.
2006-12-25 02:43:17 · answer #3 · answered by Caiman94941 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I struggle with my own finances. It's not helped by the fact that I am a gambling addict. :-(
I don't know why your b/f is asking you for money, but IF you decide to give it to him, make darn well sure you know the TRUTH about why he needs the money. Take your time making that decision, because he may not immediately be truthful with you as to why he needs it, especially if he is either ashamed or upset about his reasons for asking. If you have any doubts, ask to look over his personal finances with him. If he really needs the money and has a legitmate reason for it, that should become readily apparent by looking over his finances.
Also, consider giving him a loan rather than giving him the money outright. You might want to get somebody to draw up some official papers for you for that purpose because you'll want such an agreement to be legally binding. If your b/f is not willing to do that, than don't expect to ever get your money back.
I wish you the best of luck.
2006-12-25 03:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by G A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excellent question with some very good answers and mine concurs with all of them DO NOT give him money. Unless you want to end up support him down the road. If he thinks he can get money from you he will continue to feed off you. He sounds like a jerk to me. Why is he asking you? What does he want it for? Why is he putting you on the spot to give it to him?
Tell him to hit the road or find a better paying job so he can support whatever it is he wishes the money from you for.
2006-12-27 02:39:56 · answer #5 · answered by ne_patriots2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not your job or responsibility to look after the financial needs of your partner. he is a grown man and able to take care of himself. you work hard for a living am sure and should NOT give it up for any man!
and if he truly loves you he would not put you in that situation either!
2006-12-25 04:02:43 · answer #6 · answered by dollyisanangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wouldn't have asked this question if you were comfortable with loaning him the money. Don't go against YOUR better judgment.
2006-12-25 03:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by want2wild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May as well get married....otherwise he needs to be responsible for his own financial needs.
2006-12-25 02:37:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont give him a lot, depends how much he is asking for
2006-12-25 02:37:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him WHY he needs it, and why he's unable to afford his own financial desires.
2006-12-25 02:38:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋