How do i introduce toys in the bedroom?

Question

I am married and have been with the same man for nearly seven years. OUr sex life is still HOTTT as ever but I have been thinking about introducing a vibrator and maybe c rings into the bedroom for a while. I dont want my husband to think that he is not man enough to handle the job his self, because he is. I just want to make sure to never let our bedroom life slip away. BUt before I can intro. the toys i wanted advice on how to do so without making him think anything else other than that. Plus I want it to be sexy. ANy tips would be great. And if you have a story on it please share too.

Answer 1

The trick with talking about sex and things that you’d like to do in order to improve your sex life is to not bring it up right after or right before you’re actually doing the ‘deed.’

You want to find a time that’s outside of the bedroom and unrushed. Talk in a secluded corner of a restaurant or in your kitchen. Stay out of the bedroom for the moment. You don’t want to cause any undue pressure and scare him away.

Be honest and open about what you’ve been thinking about. Are you thinking about trying some new toys in general or do you want to share some finds with your partner? Talk about the benefits that you’ve discovered, and see what their feelings are as well. They may be perfectly open to trying something new.

But if they aren’t, then you may want to avoid putting any pressure on them. See if you can discuss it further down the road, and let them initiate anything further.

When your partner has agreed to try some things out, don’t jump up and down (wait until they’re gone for that), but start the conversation about things that sound like fun.

Many times, going onto an Internet site together is the best way to look without pressure or embarrassment. Not that there’s any reason for you to be embarrassed, but someone who is new can feel very vulnerable and timid. The anonymity of online can be very helpful. There are also user reviews many times as well as pictures.

There are many websites on the web to get you started on the road to pleasure. Look for the REAL user reviews as well as the great pictures. You’ll be sure to see something that you like, or something you’d like to try out. With the clear menus and thousands upon thousands of options, you’re sure to be caught looking for hours.

Online shopping gives you anonymity and discreetness. And without a salesperson or clerk looking over your shoulder, you can take your time and really pick out what you want. There’s no one trying to force you into buying something because they need a commission.

One of the first forays into sex toys is usually a vibrator or dildo for a woman. Many women can not climax with just penetration or they need something to fill up the lonely days. Vibrators are terrific because not only can they stimulate vaginally, but they can also be used on the clitoris as well.

And although it seems like there aren’t as many toys for men, you just have to look a little harder. Why not try out a penis pump or a penis ring? Both of these can create an overwhelming sensation in the sensitive penis tip. Rings in general work by creating a sense of sensory deprivation, so that the man can ‘last longer’ until the opportune moment.

These can be especially difficult to purchase in person, especially if you’re a newbie. Try an online site to scope out the choices before settling on one penis toy or another.



If you’re tried the vibrators and the penis toys, then you’re ready to venture into other areas. Anal play is something that many couples would like to try, but they’re not quite sure how to begin.

Anal beads can be a great way to give an added sense of stimulation during any other sexual acts. Of course, dildos and vibrators can also be used for this purpose, but these can be overly large and difficult for the beginner. Start off small and use a lot of lubricant to help with the beginning stages.

Tying it all up

And of course, there are always the non-mechanical toys for couples. Bondage play is a popular way to heighten the orgasm experience. By restraining one of the members of the couple, the other can taunt for hours if they want to.

With bondage however, you will want to start simple and work your way to more advanced restraint applications.

You might like to try a blindfold ,arm guards, collar and leash play or some effective looking accessories to make you look AND feel the part!

When it comes to toys, your imagination is your best guide. Talk about your fantasies and see how you might be able to make them come true. And do a little online voyeurism, who knows where that will lead when you’re done shopping?

Answer 2

Just my two cents worth, but if your sex life is so great, how is this even a problem about knowing how to introduce them into the bedroom? Surely you've had to have had these toys for a while, but is your husband impervious to the fact that you have them? What I can tell you from my experiences is that if it helps my sex partner to have a little more fun, and feel a little more free, then who cares. Your husband will probably feel that way too. Just don't make them a replacement for the real thing cause thats when you start having problems.

Answer 3

Take him to the toy store and shop together. In San Francisco the nice lesbian-owned Good Vibrations is comfy and well lighted and friendly to all including straight guys and gals. In Seattle Babeland is great. Just the shopping is a kick and I bet you guys will be all revved up by the time you make it back to the bedroom - with or without new gadgets. Speaking of gadgets - my experience is they're intriguing for a few weeks and then get put away for a long time or forever.

Answer 4

Introduce a C ring or something else that you two can use together. Explain to him that it's just a new twist on something already wonderful, and that he should give it a try, as he might end up liking it.

My husband is actually the one who suggested the idea of a c ring. It took me a while to convince myself to go get one, but it was pretty fun the day I showed him that I got one. (I stuck my hand in his pocket, with the c ring, and turned on the vibrator.) Hehe.

Answer 5

i know some men r touchy about this, but u handled it great asking the question. tell him what u said on here. reasure him he is enough. what i would do is tell him u want to get toys for him also. so both of u can play.
the best thing we did was 69 and i would use the toy at the same time. she would go buck wild, it was great.

Answer 6

Ride your Barbie vacation van into the boudour dressed in your
little miss pony cowgirl lingerie.

Then play adult twister on the bed whilst tickling your 35DD elmos with a Harry Potter wand.

At the moment of climax sing through your magic Karioke microphone that takes out the highs in your voice so you'll actually sound like Norah Jones.

If that doesn't work lock him in your Lego block dungeon whilst you whip him with your Big Bird dominatrix glow in the dark whip.

Answer 7

I believe that you are not getting an orgasm that much lately, but have you used a vibrator before your marriage? If so, then it's time for you to tell your husband that you like to try it out and if he don't like it, then you can just used it for yourself when he's not around and you are alone.

Answer 8

Say, "Baby, I love you so much. You know that. I thought you would enjoy this toy that I got you..."

As much as we want to admit it, as much as we love our partners, every now and then we need to kick it up.

I say, bring on the toys.

Answer 9

Just do it in front of him, Then he start asking why do u use it, tell him that this is just something you want to do with him. Then he'll start to understand. Hope this help<3