I feel like I bought to many gifts, I mean the amount of gifts under the tree is almost embarrassing, but they

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are all ready to go, I have alot of people coming over tommorow, and I really dont want to hear anyone make any reference to how much money I have spent.
My dad always makes reference to things like tat and its annoying.
This is my 4th xmas, I grew up a JW.
I have a 2 year old who I do spoil, and my dad has a 6 year old from a different mom than mine.
The thing is he is kinda tight with his money and always says things like "they grow out of things so fast, thats stupid"...I dont want to hear it, I dont tell him what to spend his money on!
I have only known him for about 5 years (im 26) so I dont really care what he says, but why does he have to add his 2 cents???

Answer 1

Jehovah's Witnesses love and respect and honor Christ. They do NOT celebrate so-called "Christmas" because "Christmas" does NOT celebrate Christ; "Christmas" celebrates the pagan Saturnalia. Jesus was not even born in December. Nearly all so-called Christmas customs dishonor Christ.

(Jeremiah 10:2-5) This is what Jehovah has said: "Do not learn the way of the nations at all... 3 For the customs of the peoples are just an exhalation, because it is a mere tree out of the forest that one has cut down, the work of the hands of the craftsman with the billhook. 4 With silver and with gold one makes it pretty. With nails and with hammers they fasten them down, that none may reel. ...the doing of any good is not with them."

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By contrast, it's tragic that the one holiday Christ actually *DID* ask Christians to commemorate is entirely ignored by almost all of Christendom. It is, of course, the Memorial of Christ's death, sometimes called "the Last Supper" or "the Lord's Evening Meal".

(1 Corinthians 11:23-25, NWT) The Lord Jesus in the night in which he was going to be handed over took a loaf... Keep doing this in remembrance of me.” 25 He did likewise respecting the cup.. Keep doing this... in remembrance of me.”

(1 Cor 11:24, 25, NEB) "Do this as a memorial of me.”


Christ Jesus himself personally celebrated and explained the significance of that Last Supper to his followers (see Matthew 26:26-29). Christians who commemorate the Last Supper have done so on the same Jewish calendar date as Jesus did, Nisan 14, which generally falls between late March and mid-April. Interestingly, Christians in the centuries immediately after Christ's impalement were sometimes called "Quartodecimans" which literally mean "Fourteen-ers", because the early Christians were well-known for this true holy day.

How would Jesus feel to learn that the holiday he commanded was widely ignored, while his so-called followers chose to celebrate a pagan false god and their own traditions of men? We don't need to wonder.

(Matthew 15:6-9) You have made the word of God invalid because of your tradition. 7 You hypocrites, Isaiah aptly prophesied about you when he said, 8 ‘This people honors me with their lips, yet their heart is far removed from me. 9 It is in vain that they keep worshiping me, because they teach commands of men as doctrines.’”

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Answer 2

Well, it is obvious you do care what he says or you would not be asking for help. I am not sure what motivates your father to say these things, but you can probably never change him. I know the words can hurt because my father was the same way. He spoke without thinking of the consequences of his words.

You can try talking to him and telling him that it hurts your feelings when he makes his little remarks about your spending or you can try and grow a thicker skin and let the comments roll of your back.

You might also want to prepare yourself for the comments with a few of your own. If he says something about your spending you can remind him that it is your money which you are spending. If he makes you feel embarrased about the amount you spend then you can joke about how cheap he is. I had learned that turning the tables on my father always stopped his comments.

My father would always comment on my size. I am a giant comapred to him. When he started in on me, I would question whether or not he was my real father or was I a product of the much larger milkman. That usually did the trick.

In the end, do not let your dad ruin the holiday for you. Christmas is supposed to be a joyous time and you can always remind him, that it is much better to give than to receive. Good luck.

Answer 3

Tell him your only young once so spend while you got it. I know Me and my husband dont make much money. we maybe bring in 1500.00 a month. but since oct. we have been buying christmas. On our 2 girls 11 and 3 we spent a little more then 1000.00 dollars. now that might seem like alot to some. But it was well worth it. We let the open them tonight. They said it was the best ever. It just money. Their happiness makes it worth it. And my dad to was gone I might him a few years ago. I wouldnt give a damn what he had to say. Maybe he should be making up all the years that he miss. Maybe you wouldnt have to try so hard to spoil your child. If he would of took the time to be there for you. Maybe if he had been around you would have looked at money and spending differently. But your loving mother did that so he can shove it. Well I think you are a strong woman so stop him before his says it. Dont let it hurt your christmas hes already ruined enough as it is. Merry Christmas and good luck.

Answer 4

This may end up being one of those things that your dad (a person you love) does that just bugs the crap out of you. But you know what, you let it go because you love him. You chalk it up to that just being who he is. My parents say and do things I don't much like. I know I open my mouth around my kids and say things I shouldn't. I give them unasked for advice on how to raise their kids. But its just family. And we love each other and without getting into a snit over it, we just let it go. You'll do the same to your kids. Just give him a kiss on the cheek, and say "Yes I know Daddy, but that's just me!" Life is really too short. Thank every day for every member of your family and have a wonderful Christmas. Tell them every day how much you love them. You can never say it enough. This is my first Christmas without my mother. We lost her last March. I have no regrets because every time I saw her I told her I loved her. And I gotta tell ya, she used to piss me off. But I let it go.

Answer 5

Well, thats what dads and moms do, i mean unless your dad was rich then all dads say that, mine also says stuff like that, its been over 12 yrs since we left india, but still when buying some thing thats over a couple hundred bucks, he converts it into indian currency and says this barbeque grill is Rupees 10,750.he always does that:P now iam so used to it, that if he doesnt say something i tell him hey dad, this is 15,000 rupees,man your so rich dad:P i kinda pull his leg. it used to annoy me, but got used to it now.