Are we growing apart or he is just confused on what we are?

Question

Quick Scenario
- been good good friends for years now - really close, can tell each other things, goof off but can be serious when we need to be
- i tell him stories about the boys "interested" in me - he teases me all the time about it and he'll tell me about girl stuff
- silly friends and we have silly nicknames for each other

NOW...
- we've matured alot - esp. him
- i told him (not in a serious matter but from my honest observation) - "woow, honestly, you're like a boyfriend to me...i tell you everything that i wouldn't tell some dude...funny, right" - don't know if he freaked out with, he just responded, "aww, that's cute"
- he's still the same guy BUT just...not as dorky-silly - trust me, he doesn't hate me or anything...he's just more "cautious"
- He's "there" but "not"...sometimes
- If he were tell me a story about a girl i'll joke around and say "don't say it...i might get jealous"...(as a joke) and then he really won't tell me...
- he still wants to hang out

DUDE, i seriously we're FRIENDS...i don't even know if he has feelings like that for me?! ha

and yeah...i have no intention of hooking up with him...

Answer 1

Well when you tell a guy that you view him as a boyfriend when maybe he doesnt want to be that figure, it could send weird vibes his way and not know how to react about that. If he took it seriously. But if he is joking around with you, I see no harm in this.

And people change.. people grow up..its life! Can you look back 5 years and say you are the same exact person? Or did you learn from your mistakes and try to change yourself for the better?

When you tell a guy you might get jealous if he talks about other women, he might take it seriously. Maybe he knows your joking around, but he probably doesnt like to hear that kind of jokes. Because maybe he is thinking... maybe she really is jealous? I probably dont want to talk about girls if she is going to feel that way. So he might avoid the situation completely? I dont know, I hate to jump to conclusions.. but this is just what I think if I was in his shoes. :-)

But if he is just a friend... why would you joke around about being jealous? and viewing him as a boyfriend? Weird vibes.

If he is just a friend.. I would try to stay in that territory.

Answer 2

OK, here is what I honestly think. You both want to just bang the heck out of each other, but are too afraid to do it, because it might ruin what was there, but this tension keeps growing now because you both realize this is what you really want. Basically each of you seem like you are waiting for the other person to make a move, and neither one of you is doing anything.

Here is something to try next time he comes over. As soon as he walks in the door, go up to him and plant a big kiss on him. Then smile and step back and see what he does. From the sound of things, he will probably tackle you onto the floor and you guys can release all your tension that keeps growing while you play "paddycake" with each other.

Answer 3

This sounds more of a close 'friendship' kind of thing. It seems like he only wants to remain friends. Because if he wanted to pursue more than a friendship, he would have let you known, but sometimes guys don't say much because they are afraid to ruin what they have now. If he just said, "aww thats cute" and didnt say more, that shows you he would just like to remain 'friends'. That is good he is more cautious, that is a good sign on his part and should be for you too. Anotherwards, he is probably afraid of committing or is not ready..or maybe wants to remain 'just friends'. If you say you tell eachother everything, then let him tell you about the girl he wanted to tell you about, but without you saying anything, but by just listening to him.

My opionion is, if I were you, I would just remain friends.

Answer 4

He might be a little confused, but more likely, you are just growing apart. You have to rekindle the friendship, but you cannot expect it to always remain the same. As people grow up, their outlook on life will change as well.

Answer 5

Stop playing games! Just figure out what YOU want....and tell him. He will go with it, or not. Either way, you will know where you stand and how he feels. These games are not worth it....get to the point with him.