What if someone has failed at every relationship, every friendship, has a seriously bipolar family who are all gone, is divorced, can't hold a job and realizes that he might be totally useless to the world. He sounds devastated, what can he do? He is 40.
2006-12-24 17:15:43 · 12 answers · asked by Ade 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
get a medical and pshch examination as soon as possible.
2006-12-24 17:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by Norton N 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Allow some perspective, his situation is not what it seems.
Having no relationships is a great freedom and offers solitude in a busy, insane world. He has time to attend to his own interests, without having to cater to others.
And every relationship ends at death... his relationships just happen to end mid-life. Inevitably, all relationships must end (fail).
No family?
People separate, but are never separate.
No wife?
There is always someone better suited, who he can now find.
No job?
Some people won't work, no matter what they do. Others cannot avoid it, no matter what they do.
Those who work are shackled. Without money he won't be shackled to possessions either.
As for uselessness... it's a wonderful attribute, for mother nature and for us.
Think of useful trees, plants, and animals... all killed for their usefulness.
Humans find themselves in all kinds of trouble because they're useful for getting troublesome jobs done.
Where should his pity really be directed, at himself or others?
2006-12-25 02:04:56 · answer #2 · answered by unseen_force_22 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get in touch with people that can help him. I don't see anyone as being hopless. Not even at 40. There is help out there for him, and some people are not good at relationships. He can get help for that. Take his med's. See professionals. and by all means build his self esteem back up. if he was married once, then, he is not useless or hopless. He just needs to get back on the band wagon and do what he knows he needs to do, to get things rounding again.
Merry Christmas
2006-12-25 01:22:51 · answer #3 · answered by Ladyofathousandfaces 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Start again. There's nothing to do but start again.
How is an entire family bipolar?
I think you are only looking at glass as "half-empty" and exagerrating -- sometimes there are achivements that are not easy to discern -- like he made someone really happy or helped someone through a troubled time or smiled at someone to make his day.
No life is a failure. People who tout someone's life as a failure are frustrated with their own and need to take it out as discouragement to others.
2006-12-25 01:20:46 · answer #4 · answered by WaterStrider 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Satsang: Swami Sukhabodhananda
Commitment is the language of the wise; complaint is that of fools. Commitment is a responsibility and it includes accountability.
Our weaknesses result in disappointment. To overcome disappointment, boost your strengths. The greatest strength comes from the energy of commitment that brings excellence in all walks of life. Few people traverse the road of success without a puncture or two, but it is commitment to excellence that takes them through.
To be committed is not being ‘stuck’; it is an integration of one’s being. If you are committed to honour your word, the base self in you will discourage you. If your energies are low, you will succumb. If you follow the higher self, the lower self will serve you, slowly getting integrated with the higher. In such a state there will be integrity. Without integrity life is shallow.
You are both actor and thinker. Every time you lie, the thinker warns you that you are lying and the actor asks you to shut up and continue telling lies. It is like riding a chariot with two horses going in two different directions. With commitment, however, you are a person of integrity, and excellence is attainable.
Can we test before we trust? >>
Like an eagle, can we test before we trust?
Eagles lay eggs on a cliff or high peak in nest of grass and thorns. When the eggs hatch, the weight of the eaglets exerts pressure and the thorns start pricking the newborns. Then the female pushes the eaglets out of the nest. As the eaglets nearly fall, the male picks them and places them back in the nest.
Meanwhile, the female removes the upper layer of grass, so that the eaglets rest directly on the thorns that prick them. The eaglets are yet to test their wings. Now the male pushes the eaglets out of the nest. This process continues till such time that the eaglets are able to foresee the danger in falling and start using their wings. Slowly they realise their ability to use their wings and start flying.
Observe the commitment of an eagle reflected in the way it executes family responsibilities and the way it conducts itself while parenting. Bring similar commitment to all walks of life; be it in the family, at work, in society or in your spiritual life. Excellence happens when there is love that helps you to grow and contribute.
Commitment also involves dropping illusions. We do not see the world as it is; we see it projected through our verbose minds. Our minds are filled with thoughts and words. Words represent experiences. Words are also influenced by memory. From the past, we see the present. Hence we create illusions created by words, but we must filter them wisely.
The mind creates dreams. The aware self in you sees reality. Awareness without the ‘I’ is the higher self. The mind with its illusions is the lower self. Have the commitment to operate from the higher self.
Through commitment, balance all walks of your life... family, work, social and spiritual. Creativity is to balance all walks of life. Creativity is just not creating something new always. Creativity brings excellence in one’s life. It is a state of well-being. Well-being creates completion. When one is complete, one is alive and vibrant in all walks of life.
2006-12-25 01:56:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get involved in a support group
2006-12-25 01:17:51 · answer #6 · answered by kiki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs friendship and support. You can remind him of the obvious, by telling him thinking positive is the only way. He will thank you for your kindness.
2006-12-25 01:18:25 · answer #7 · answered by the Boss 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
find help asap, talk to a friend, counsler, his pastor, his neighbor. no one is useless we all have a purpose although sometimes we dont know what it is only our heavenly father knows what that is.
2006-12-25 01:20:35 · answer #8 · answered by karen v 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
keep trying at everything, gaiin some confidence, and he will probably succceed.. or maybe he should try going to church
2006-12-25 01:18:23 · answer #9 · answered by ladiilovee 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
get professional help.. no one is hopeless..
2006-12-25 01:17:39 · answer #10 · answered by punkdoesabodygud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋