What to do when your parents hate your fiance?

Answer 1

Some times parents have good intuition and you need to pay attention to that before you marry this person. If they are just being irrational, you need to tell them that this is the person you are going to marry and possibly have children with so if they want to be in your life and their grandkids' life then they need to try harder to like this individual.

Answer 2

Well Jeremy there are two schools of thought on this 1) Your parents don't think you are good enough for anyone and 2) You have to choose between your fiance and your parents. If you choose the latter than you lose.

I learned a long time ago that you can't change people. You only change how you deal with them, even your parents. Don't get into a power struggle over the assets of your fiance. I don't think they really care. In as much as it may be noble to fight for her, you love her and don't have to explain why you love her to anyone. Some day your parents may come around. In answer to your question, what do you do? Love your fiance more.

Answer 3

Alright well what you need to do is talk to your parents and let them know that you love them but that if they love you they will accept the person who makes you happy, they dont even have to really accept them, all they need to do is respect your fiance, and respect your relationships, anything short will mean disrespect towards you. Ask that they start to learn that you are an adult and that they will need to stay out of your relationship because once you two are married there is only going to be enough room for you and your wife, not anyone else good luck

Answer 4

If you try to sit and talk with your parents, they will not give you straight answers. The trick is to talk to the people they are closest with (other relatives, family friends, etc) because if they do, in fact, hate your fiance, their support network knows exactly why.

It could be something simple like manners or style or things they said that seemed awkward. Or it could be the manner in which they were introduced, heard the news of the engagement, or something that has "shocked" them into hate.

My parents hate my now sister-in-law because she wears low cut tops to family functions and you cant say a word to my brother without her talking "for" him.

After you find out, you can correct the small issues and try again. If it is a bigger issue, you'll have to sit down (without your honey) and see what steps you can take to make both parties happy.

good luck and congrats!

Answer 5

Tell your parents it is not up to them to like or dislike your fiance. It would be in their best interest if they learned to like your fiance because they are going to be around from now on!

Answer 6

Find out if there's a solid reason behind their dislike for her, or if they just think that you could do better. If there's no reliable reason, then ask them to get to know your fiance. Tell them that you have made the choice to be with this person, and they should make some effort to support your choice, and accept her.

Answer 7

well first i think you should add additional comments as to why your parents hate your finance? then i would be able to fully tell you what you should do. If its for a stupid reason or a reason you dont know about then talk to him. If its for another more complex reason like they dont like that he is a certain race or that he has kids or that he treats you bad. step back and ask yourself is the problem that he is not a good person or that your parents are being unfair. most times parents dont like them because they are trying to look out for you and find that he is rude or not a good match. talk to your parents. if they love you they will respect your decision.

Answer 8

it's up to your fiance to win them over.... you need to stay out of it... (try not to take sides) it only worsens things... if your fiance loves you then trust me your fiance will be willing to stick out there neck to impress your parents... and if not keep in mind this will end up being forever.... so it's not worth it...

Answer 9

If you respect your parents then try to figure out why they don't like her. If they respect and love you then they may have valid concerns. If your parents are just ******* then you will just have to live with it.

Answer 10

Talk to them and find out what their problems are exactly. Let them know that you love this person, and nothing they are going to do or say is going to change your mind. Talk thru it with them and just ask them to give this person a chance.