mybf is getting on my nerves. i wish he would go somewhere and sit down.?

Question

i have a bf that is getting om my nerves. i told him i was having problems trusting him and he knows why and i told him he didnt spend quality time with me. well now he is constantly in my face. hes looking at me when i eat, he is pushing the buggy at the store when im trying to push it, he is always standing around me in the apartment, he is even taking up all the bed when we sleep, so i slept on the couch one night and the next morning he came in the living room. well i got up to go to the restroom when i came back he was sitting in the spot he know i was laying in. why didnt he sit on the love seat. well even at the store its hard to shop when someone is constantly standing right under you. i asked for quality time but not for him to smother me. if i say something he is going to say im never satisfied. even now everything i do he has a comment about it. what do i do?

Answer 1

He is showing signs of passive aggression. He is getting back at you for your request for more quality time. He resents that you do not trust him and is punishing you for it. He knows what he is doing, but he will not admit it. He wants you to take the blame and is taunting you for a reaction. Just tell him straight up that while you enjoy quality time with him, you still need your space when you are shopping so that you can think about what you need to buy. Use specifics and don't show any anger. Also, you will need to address the trust issue and inform him that you are over it or not. Tell him to relax every time he gets intense and always remain calm and patient. This should work, that is , if you still want to keep him.

Answer 2

He is not giving your "quality time" he is making an obnoxious point. Quality time by my standards, and probably yours would be making plans to do something special one night- watch a movie he would hate but you would love, go somewhere you enjoy more than him- stuff like that--- he is being in your face obnoxious..

To test him and you have nothing oto lose because for some reason you didnt tell us you have trust issues with him- I would give yourself space from him for awhile-- and see how things play out--- if he really cares- he will come around--- if he is just being an idiot- better to get him out of your life sooner than later.

Answer 3

seems the two of you need time apart, not ending it just some time apart so you can get your heads together...sometimes people want to talk, and i think thats what he wants,so maybe a time out for a week with no communication will help, after that you have to come back to the table and talk....listening to each other is the magic...get some it might help

Answer 4

he is just trying to please u, guys and girls don't think a like so u need to be specific. let him know the time u want is when the day winds down to cuddle on the couch and watch a movie, or a nice dinner.
don't get frustrated he is trying, give him some credit. he just doesn't understand exactly what u mean.

Answer 5

Your so-called relationship doesn't sound like much of a relationship, more like a power struggle to see who can drive whom up the wall first. Move on and find someone you are actually compatible with.

Answer 6

OK he may be taking all this to a new level to get just what he wants--to have you tell him to back off and give you some room--

Answer 7

Tell him that, although you wanted him to spend some quality time with you, that you still need some space & privacy.

Answer 8

He sounds as if he could be ill with Bipolar or similar disease. I suggest he be checked by a Dr. (Shrink)

Answer 9

Ooooh dear, this isn't sounding so good! If he can't see he's in your face, then he must be blind or stupid. Show him these answers - hopefully he'll take the hint.

Answer 10

hes trying to make you happy lol try to break the cold ice that has developed