my boyfriend asked me to have sex with him but i dont know.....is it better to wait and not rush into things....Im 16
2006-12-24 17:04:10 · 17 answers · asked by i ♥ Javon!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is up to you, I would suggest you wait. I waited until I was engaged before having sex, my wife however had sex with her boyfriend when she was 16. She was sure they would be together forever and that they were meant to be. I knew about this when we started dating and I was ok with it, however to this day it still upsets her that she had sex with another person. I'm sure you love your boyfriend and he loves you, and if he really does he will understand you want to wait and be willing to wait for you, if he isn't willing to wait for you then he doesn't love you he is just using you.
The other thing, even if you are as careful as possible there is still a chance you could get pregnant, are the two of you emotionally and financially ready to take care of a baby? Will you end up raising this child alone because he doesn't want to be a father? If you don't like the answers to these questions you shouldn't have sex.
Whatever decision you make, make sure it is the right decision for you, not your boyfriend, this is a major decision that will affect the rest of your life.
2006-12-27 07:08:46 · answer #1 · answered by tommyguard3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be asked by your boyfriend to have sex with him... it should just happen natrually. Just wait until things settle down a bit... How long have you been in the relatoinship with him... do you feel like "he is the ONE"... do you feel like your relationship is headed for long-term... you have to really ask these questions to yourself first.
I'd say that you shouldn't have sex with him at this moment... if he keeps on persisting then (I'm sorry) but he is NOT the one... but if he stops asking you and appreciates the fact that you might want to wait until further into the relationship then he might be the one...
I hope you choose what's best for you... Good luck!
2006-12-25 01:21:04 · answer #2 · answered by make love not war 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stay a virgin till you're married.
God intended it to be that way.
But many, MANY people abuse that.
And God looks down on those people.
You don't just give your virginity to just anybody.
It is the best present you can give your future husband.
It is you... it is all of you.
If you become pregnant, you can handle it better when you're married.
You'll have that person beside you who promised to always be by your side.
It won't be some random guy or some guy who you THOUGHT loved you.
Sex makes many things complicated in an unmarried relationship.
It takes two very mature people.
You do not want to get yourself lost in everything that comes with sex.
Most people nowadays tend to just BASE their relationship on sex.
I am a virgin myself. I have a boyfriend of more than 10 months that I am completely in love with. We talk about marriage and how I want to wait till our wedding day to have sex. He truly does love me... he respects me. That's when you KNOW you have a great guy. That's when you KNOW he's in love with you... when he has absolutely no problem in waiting. Actions speak louder than words...
2006-12-25 01:14:29 · answer #3 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to experience more adult responsibilities before you endeavor into this. Your boyfriend... does he have a job? Is he capable of handling adverse reactions of his actions? Go to a homeless shelter for women. I'm sure there is a wealth of knowledge there learned the boyfriend way.........Oh by the way ,where is their boyfriend now?
Wait it out . Your in no hurry to ruin your life yet. besides you don't want to run the risk of not meeting a real man who respects you and your body while your stuck changing diapers.
2006-12-25 01:33:21 · answer #4 · answered by william k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For god's sake wait. Do you really want to follow the rest of the crowd and "do it" for the sake of doing it. If you ask me, put it on the shelf for a little longer (perhaps 18) when you will appreciate what it means to have sexual relations a little more.
Relax, and don't get pushed into anything, especially by the guy who "respects and ""loves"" you".
Good luck to ya!
2006-12-25 01:12:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are thinking about it because he is pressuring you and saying "if you love me you would" then it is a 100% no because you may not be ready emotionally or physically. And it is true that guys seem to lose respect for the woman they sleep with especially while still in highschool. I have seen it happen way to many times
2006-12-25 01:12:11 · answer #6 · answered by momof3boys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him wait a year. It'll be a good test for him.
It's the only way of finding out whether he's going to stick around.
2006-12-25 01:15:35 · answer #7 · answered by Panama Jack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe just give him a nice hard handjob and see how long he lasts. If he lasts under 2 minutes forget about the sex part because he is going to suck anyways...if he last over 5 minutes, try flicking it with your tongue, and see how long he lasts, if he can last another 5 minutes, then try giving him your whole mouth....if he can't control it and shoots into your mouth, you might as well forget about it....if he can control it and pulls it out, then you probably have a guy that can really give you a good experience in the sack....
2006-12-25 01:13:57 · answer #8 · answered by matter2003 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well depends. how long have u been with him is he all over you easy lik, as if thats all hes thinking? or does he treat you right & thinks more than jus about sex. im a virgin, and even if u are or not. dont let him take advantage of you if hes useing you but it might be one of his ways of shwoing he really cares 4 you, its all depends on how well u really "know" him..
2006-12-25 01:12:43 · answer #9 · answered by brittany l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the right age for sex is after marriage the correct age is 23 or 24 for a girl
2006-12-25 01:14:03 · answer #10 · answered by *niki loves all god* 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋