feel like i have failed as a parent!
2006-12-24 16:47:52 · 9 answers · asked by tina 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You should have asked instead, what are the borders parents need to drawn for their kids? Please do not think you have failed in the first place, I am sure you did whatever you could do best of you, so do not degrade yourself as a parent. Come out of that inferiority complex. It is hard to know where you are failing and what is going wrong with your kids. As said by Pastor Robert Schuller "Failure is never final Success is never ending" If you need serious help contact with more details to counsellor at nischai_org@yahoo.co.in
2006-12-24 17:06:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I forget who said this, but someone once said that if your children got to the point of being adults and had never once thoroughly embarrassed you or horrified you by doing something bad, you either had really low standards or you weren't paying attention.
My personal opinion is that most of us feel like we've failed as parents occasionally and sometimes more often than that. The good news is that if you can even feel that way, chances are you haven't. The people I've known who really did fail as parents were totally 100% sure they'd done everything right and simply had defective kids.
As for how much patience parents should have, the answer is probably "more than it's realistically possible for any human being on the planet to have."
Best of luck to you!
2006-12-25 01:21:34 · answer #2 · answered by IrritableMom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will never fail as a parent, as long as you never give up. no matter how young or old your kids are, you should never give up on them. sure, alot of times, parents may feel that they have failed, when thier patience runs short, or thier kids are doing things that are wrong. even as toddlers and infants, times can be tough, raising a baby is no easy job! even when they become teenagers, it dosent let you off the hook. they will try your patience till the day they move out on thier own. but as long as you always tell them you love them, and be there for them no matter what, you will never fail. if you feel like you have failed as a parent, mabye its time to take a step back and take a look at a different approach. being a parent is not easy, and many parents find themselves saying "where did i go wrong?" but its up to the parent, to make things right. since you said "till teenagers" i'm assuming you have a younger child. if you are having problems raising your kids, mabye you should ask for advice, or see some sort of family counselor. but, remember to tell your kids that you love them every day, even when your patience has run out. it will give your kids the sense of security they need. they need to know, that even when they do wrong, that you still love them. but remember, you have not failed untill you give up. and even after you give up, you can still go back and pick up the pieces, and try to start over. i hope this helps, happy holidays!
2006-12-25 01:24:37 · answer #3 · answered by superyduperymommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a parent needs patience.. if you feel like you faild as a parent then you need to look back and ask your self why do i think i faild as a parent.. you may need to go get some help.. One thing i want you to know is.. no matter what your child dose gets into trouble or acts out you need to ask your self why.. some time kids will be kids... Im normal and my brouther is a can be an *** and my mom always ask what did i do wrong.. My dad and i tell her.. It nothing you did mom it just the way he is.. He is growing up and wants to brake away from the family and trying to act like the COOL kid.. but hes not.. may be if there is a problem with your child they should get some help....
2006-12-25 00:55:38 · answer #4 · answered by Heather O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a parent but I know from my experiences teaching children that they require loads of patience. This does not mean you have to let everything slide and go with the flow. Setting boundaries and sticking to them is not easy but your kids respect you more in the long run. Don't blame yourself.
2006-12-25 00:53:21 · answer #5 · answered by M N 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One should be patient not only with kids but with everybody. Parents give everthing the children ask and think that it is love. But when it becomes out of control such questions arise. It is not the fault of children alone. Instead of conceading the unresonable demands of children, parents should give their unconditional love and time to their dear ones. The best way is to become a role-model yourself. Inculcate good values and guide them. There are no short-cuts.
2006-12-25 01:19:16 · answer #6 · answered by anveshi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I recommened beating them senseless, so they know their place as a teenager. A 2 x 4 works the best, but try not to leave bruises they can get you in trouble
2006-12-25 00:56:48 · answer #7 · answered by az_ zoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A too much of anything is what it is...Just too much.
I believe its not really a matter of patience.
Its a matter of guidance.
Being patient at some moment can be as perfect as being impatient the other moment.
All the kids seriously need is guidance.
So..whatever you do: Let them know you care :)
2006-12-25 00:51:52 · answer #8 · answered by ganja_claus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Eighteen years of patience. :)
If you care, then you haven't really failed. I've known parents (my friends') who couldn't care less.
Hang in there.
Merry Christmas!
2006-12-25 00:51:09 · answer #9 · answered by Hogwash 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋