I love my boyfriend to death and would do anything for him but lately im finding myself turned off by the things he does and im starting to not like him as a person. Does that make any sense?
2006-12-24 16:36:10 · 40 answers · asked by georgiabelle87 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes you can love but not like someone. Love is a feeling that grows on you-it can be due to many factors-time, things they did,etc. But you can not like them at the same time. I love my father but most of the time I don't like him. Love and like are very different.
2006-12-24 16:39:24 · answer #1 · answered by RoxieC 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
see there could be a lot of things.
1.) he is the same guy - whom you love but just going through some stuffs which you dont understand and you think that this guy is an idiot. but this is being ignorant - best way is talk to him find out whss going on - support him.
2.) love was your perception - this guy is actually a jerk and till now you were not aware of it because your eyes were blinded outa sheer love.
3.) may be it was all a mistake. you ppl are not at all compatible.
i don know u both - so cant say much.
but remember - in a relationship there is always a phase where you start disliking some stuffs abt the other - but you gotta find out details - thats how u'll know each other more.
2006-12-24 16:44:20 · answer #2 · answered by i don know y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its kind of important to like the person for who they are. After all, it is his life, and people will do what makes them happy. I guess I would just confront him, and tell him how you feel, and hopefully he will respect you as a person and understand that your not a big fan on some of the things he is doing. And depending on what it is... maybe he will do it when your not around... or try to work on the issues if he finds them to be a problem about himself. Depending on what it is.. maybe you can motivate him in some way to help with the issue. (lol wish i knew what he has been doing)
2006-12-24 16:48:28 · answer #3 · answered by Royce 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u can. There are many people in the world who can LOVE but not necessarily LIKE, a person. For example, a mother loves their children since it is an unconditional love, but they might not like them as a person since their morals, values and ways of living are totally different/wrong. The ability to love is possible withouht the ability to truly like just like in your case...you love your boyfriend because he is a great person deep inside but can be turned off and dissapointed by the way he ACTS. This proves that loving someone is unconditional and true but liking them as a person might depend on the way they carry themselves...It is possible in my opinion.
2006-12-24 16:44:00 · answer #4 · answered by d a n i .R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It makes perfect sense. If you really love him that much, perhaps you can concentrate on the things you love about him and find acceptance of the things that you don't like. It's important to like him too. What happens later on, when the flames of love begin to waiver?
2006-12-24 16:39:44 · answer #5 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. This happens with parents also. But with boyfriends it means you're seeing their entire personality. Love is resolute. Totally. Meaning you have to love the lumps, warts, and knotty places in a person's personality. You don't have to understand it or be enthusiastic about it, but it is what it is.
CAN YOU LIVE WITH IT IS THE REAL QUESTION?
2006-12-24 16:51:22 · answer #6 · answered by L. F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely possible; do you always like your parents (if/when they get mad at you or ground you or bug you or make you do chores, etc.)? Probably not, but you can still love them. The thing is, if you don't like who your boyfriend is as a person, wait a little bit and if you still don't or it gets worse, you might want to rethink your relationship.
2006-12-24 16:45:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love the person but don't like his actions---happens all the time--say when a person abuses drugs or alcohol --you love the person just not the addict--but if its not a problem like that and its just he being himself then you need to rethink the relationship--its not fair for either of you two--does he have a clue?? have you told him any of this?? I mean if its something he can change then you need to give him benefit of the doubt and talk to him--that's fair--
2006-12-24 16:42:49 · answer #8 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Makes lot of sense, yet, doesn't. If you love someone you love them as a whole and you cherish the things that he/she does. I think you respect him, but your not attracted to him.
but being humans are emotions and feelings..perspectives..are so extreme...even we don't even undertsand how we are or others are. So don't think your weird or bad, your just confused and it is normal.
But..if you find his..annoyingness a turn on...then..well that is different lol, but normal.
2006-12-24 16:43:23 · answer #9 · answered by * Kittles * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you THINK you love him, but not anymore.
Love is unconditional. You accept the person for what he is. If you do not like something how he does things, then you are in mixed emotions, love is not there.
Do you laugh with him, cry with him, prepared to scale the mountain and swim the deep ocean and find it extremely enjoyable? Happy?
I bet your answer is no. So, make a clean cut now.
2006-12-24 16:42:31 · answer #10 · answered by Nightrider 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋