Question for single people-How long have U been single & how do you deal with it-esp.on holidays(e.g.Christmas

Question

How long do you think you will be single for until you find someone?
do you ever think you will find someone? how do you deal with it?
Isn't it frustrating ? Personally I am separated and had been
married 12 yrs & going thru a divorce- its a b-i-t-c-h and
finding someone else sometimes seems hopless ( I am 43 now)
and all I find now are other divorcees and ones with kids...
Should I give up any hope ???????

I appreciate all the answers and any more
that anyone could share-

Also take a look at Jeff's answer-esp.
for anyone single- Great Answer !!-
very insightful...........

Answer 1

I've been single for 19 years straight (since I was in my mom's womb). And I don't have any problems about it since knowing the fact that I'm still young though (no worries). I can do a lot of things and enjoy --- no one telling me 'no' to this and 'yes' to that and stuff. But I know that it's nice to have someone with you (someone to settle with) to have mutual support and all. It's nice having someone to share your life with. Some people get frustrated and say they're hopeless when they're single. You say you're divorced? Hmm... Many are, and some are still on their senses and they've been keeping their feet flat on the ground. Some may find another to settle with, and they don't even care whether those ones are other divorcees and have children or not, as long as the fact remains that they truly love that person, it's all good. Don't let your hopes down. Maybe sooner or later, you'll find someone. Don't get frustrated. As for now, learn how to see things clearly and enjoy your being single. There are a lot of fun things to do when you're single. If someone is out there for you, time will tell. Just enjoy and don't be bothered about it. Relax.

Answer 2

Yeah I know what you mean. I am single, its been three years..the first year though I had an amazing boyfriend...how he treated me is the standard now which relationships will be judged. The last two years I have been alone, but I have kids and wonderful friends so I don't feel alone. I was more alone when I was married. My problem is when I meet a great guy and we hit it off they get sent to the east coast.....now I think its funny. It doesn't matter if I am ever in a real relationship again....I have plenty of friends with benefits....most of them are not available for a relationship.......the holiday thing doesn't bother me at all....like I said....I was alone a lot when I was married....at least now I can do whatever what I want and get have much better sex with younger....incredibly hot guys....its been a win win situation for me. I am not into other peoples kids either, their behavior would be a deal breaker as I am very picky about children, mine are 15 and 20 so they aren't a problem, but they are very nice people....I wouldn't tolerate anything less from a partners children.........besides I want more and I have their dad picked out....now we just have together!

Answer 3

NEVER give up..........

I'm Single and lovin' it. I am 43, male. I will never go back to married life again. Jus' went thru bitter divorce..... Freedom........... ahhhhhhhhhh ...........so nice. I will give anything for such freedom. I can breathe again. A ton of bricks were unloaded off my shoulder.

How do I handle it during holidays? My friends, my family. I am so busy I have no time for mediocrity. Time flies... wish there were 26 hours in a day.

My wife? she is third class. So glad she is out of my hair. What a nightmare? What a control freak.....

Answer 4

hang in there, you will meet someone again. dating is really difficult. I'm 35 and just broke off an engagement. invites to parties, weddings, holiday events - and having to go alone - is painful. But I'd say try online dating. You'll have to weed out a lot of frogs looking for that princess. But if you really want to date again, commit to the process. good luck!

Answer 5

being single and lonely does seem to hurt more around the holiday season.

bottom line, you can't live your life expecting a relationship to be the entire heart and soul of your life. focus on yourself, you individualism, your goals, your hobbies, your health, your job, etc..

relationship should be icing on the cake.. not the entire cake.

i've been singl for 99% of my life, but get by focusing on things i can control.. i've had a good year even though i was single for all of it.. new job, revisited my love for sports, lost a bit of weight, reached out and made some new friends.. being single isn't the end of the world!

Answer 6

For 7 months. I deal with it by being around friends and family. You dont always have to be with someone ( as a couple) to be happy. Somtimes i would rather be single.

Answer 7

15 years, ever since I was born. How do I deal with it? By thinking of how I'll be on my own one of these days and have the freedom to date.

Answer 8

are u asking me or u are tryin to solve your probl;em?

Answer 9

lots and lots of alcohal