How can I improve my mother-daughter relationship?

Answer 1

I don't know how old is your daughter but if she is in her teens or late teens or even bigger then the best way to deal with her is to become her best friend. Now at this age she requires proper counselling which only a mother can give but not as mother but as a friend I hope you got my point.Telling you because the same my wife did with my daughter whose getting married now.

Answer 2

Hello & Merry Christmas!

I suggest that you plan a spa day with your daughter this is such a nice way to connect with your daughter. Also during this spa day course you'll get your hair, makeup and nails etc done have her to pick a new color of hair for you ! And then allow her to do the same for you..

Just remember Mom if your daughter is over 17 don't try to place her hair back to the way it was years ago.. she's older now!

If she is under 17 then surprise her pick something you think will look nice for her that she'd never dream you'd pick!

Do other things together shop, movies etc... it all depends on her age so this is sort of hard, but I believe you get the idea.

Be open to her and if ever she needs to talk to you about anything though we are parents we always interupt sometimes stating the been there done that deal... but just listen and ask her questions such as "what would you like to do" etc.. And then slowly give advice as a mother and friend.

In time that mother daughter relationship will be like peas and carrots!

Best of luck!!

Answer 3

Are you the mother or the daughter?

To improve any relationship, think of the other person above yourself; love says that you are always concerned for the best for the other person. Notice nice things about her and compliment her for character qualities/abilities. Spend time with her. Listen to her. Maybe even ASK her what you can do to improve things.

Answer 4

Make her your friend so she tell u everything. My mother n I are just like friends. She scold me when I m wrong but then she politely clear her point in front of me. N she makes me understand how 2 work on my fault. She never yell on me. Touch wood. I can talk 2 her freely abt anything. So we share a strong bond. Girls from age of 12 or14 to around 20 are unstable, you know it as u have gone through that phase. They become very aggressive sometimes without any reason. Now that's a hormone play. Well this happens with me also sometimes. But my mother always handle me at that situation. She listen 2 me carefully analyze the situation n advise me what can I do. She never impose her decisions on me just gave her advice. But 90 percent advise r useful 2 me. She listen 2 me so I listen 2 her. When we meet at evening as she is a working lady we have long chat abt our day. Make this bond b/w u n ur daughter. Wish Luck

Answer 5

The mother-daughter relationship is so important to most women, yet it can often be fraught with hurt, disappointment, disconnection, anger or conflict.

Here are some ideas to improve your mother-daughter relationship:

For daughters:

1. Understand your mother, as a person
Get curious about your mother and her life. It may help you to depersonalize some of her behaviours and to have more patience and compassion for her.

Ask about her childhood. What kind of relationship did she have with her own mother? What are the disappointments and joys that have touched her life? To what extent was she affected by the social and career limitations imposed on earlier generations of women?

2. Shift usual relationship patterns
It's so easy to feel and act like you're 15 again when you are with your mother. If there are specific things your mom says or does that push your buttons, consciously construct different, calmer, more adult-like responses. Consider talking to your mother about things that are bothering you in your relationship in a loving, respectful, grown-up and assertive way.

3. Take charge of the relationship
Think about what you'd like to change about the relationship or what would help you to enjoy your time with your mother more. Would you like to see her more? See her less? See her at a different time? Spend more one-on-one time with her? Share an activity together? Take the initiative to make it happen.

4. Know when to seek help
If the relationship with your mother is very toxic, if there is a history of physical or emotional abuse or if your mother is very controlling, consider finding a supportive therapist to help you heal and decide how to handle your relationship.

For mothers:

1. Don't criticize
This is the number 1 complaint I hear from adult daughters about their mothers. What feels like your efforts to help just makes daughters feel hurt and inadequate. Daughters need their mothers to view them as competent adults.

2. Listen
Whether it's life struggles, feelings, wants or needs - just listen supportively and empathize with your daughter. Avoid giving advice, which may reflect your values or desires but may not be the best decision for her. Ask questions to help her to figure out what she wants to do with a given difficulty or life situation.

3. Allow breathing room
Let your daughter make her own life decisions - even if you disagree with them. Let her make her own mistakes and find her own way through tough situations. Just make sure she knows you're supportive.

4. Draw on your own experiences
Think about what you would have liked your own mother to have said or done differently, and try to do these things for your daughter.-

Answer 6

Fights between mothers and daughters are normal, especially growing up, but what she said there sounds downright cruel =S Your dad sounds like a really decent guy, I know you said he wants to keep the peace and everything, but you should really talk to him about how badly you're feeling about this, and what your mom's been saying. He'd be the best ally to have in this situation. Hope things improve =)

Answer 7

I am not quite sure if you are a mother or daughter seeking answer to this question. Often younger one is in confusion. Presuming u r the daughter, the answer is:
Try your best to introduce your mother to your changing world. Keep her in touch with the new age and practices. Let her be aware how the changed atmosphere is! Mothers will have deficit in understanding modern day's environment. They are new to such thing. Everything new appears as "CHANGE" to them and for you it is "IN" atmosphere. Every change is resisted. Change should not be sudden. Acclomotization is important. Then the elders will learn to run with "IN" things. Then automatically, your moves are understood and not opposed. With this there won't be any aurguments, and friction thereon. As such relationships would be smooth. Remember! Every time you try to put her "IN" to "CHANGE" it is opposed. Handle with care. Let her understand that there is no DEVIL in "CHANGE". All it takes is patience, which is absent at your age gap with your mother.

Answer 8

That depends on what she expects from you and how well you can meet them. I'm no expert at this, but from my experience, of all that my mom and I went through I summed it up in this. So, that depends on how well you can show her that she raised a good daughter based on what she taught you from the beginning. I hope things go well with mother-daughter relationship & Merry Christmas!

Answer 9

What your daughter wants most is YOUR TIME. Take time to be with her, doing whatever she wants to do for the day. Time for YOU to listen to what your daughter is saying to you, and things that she may want to tell you. My daughter tells me the most valuable thing I give her is my love and my time. Time lost is something you can never gain back. Give of yourself wholeheartedly, just hug her even if you don't approve of everything she does, be supportive, as long as it won't get her into trouble. As mothers we have a built in instinct (well some of us do) to protect our children, we only want whats best for them. At any age its ok to let your daughter fall ocassionally, just like when she was learning to walk. Falling in life in different situations, are lessons learned, even though it is hard for a mother to sit back and watch their daughter fall. Being able to spread those wings and keep from falling is what our daughters want. A little less motherly advice at times, & just give of yourself and time, and lend an ear for her and a shoulder, and lost of hugs.

Answer 10

Their are many ways you can improve it you can go out with your daughter try to have conversations with her but when she does something wrong dont get on her case you need to not only be her mother but also her friend who she can trust !! Good Luck merry christmas!!