I was just reading the letter my 10 year old left for Santa and one of the things she asked for was a happy family in the morning. Should I try to talk to her more and find out what she ment or just let it go?
2006-12-24 15:54:46 · 27 answers · asked by paula_5150 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Sweetness Is it also a betrayl that I ate the cookies and drank the milk she left for Santa?
2006-12-24 16:25:50 · update #1
She probably just wants a fun morning and everyone to get along, families tend to arue, I want to know why so many people are against a 10 year old believing in Santa? seriously why should we push our kids to grow up, being a grown up sucks and I hope my kids believe in Santa for as long as possible.
ps... I ate the cookies too.
2006-12-25 13:36:54 · answer #1 · answered by Shadow Kat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to talk to her, which might be a good idea, then don't tell her you read the letter. If she still believes in Santa, then that'll get the questioning going. Maybe tell her that Santa is worried and told you what she had written. Is your family really growing apart? If not don't worry but kids of that age do write some strange things. Maybe one of her friends families is drifting apart and she doesn't want the same to happen.
And don't mention eating the Santa cookies to her - That'll be the least of her problems right now. Good Luck!
2006-12-25 09:01:48 · answer #2 · answered by Rick Harley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the morning routine may have your 10 year old stressed. Look at things through her eyes and see if there's anything that can be changed. Clothes and cereal, bowls, etc. set out on the table the night before, bathroom schedule, lunches and snacks done by the kids, not you the parent. Ask your 10 year old for some ideas. You'd be amazed at what they can come up with.
2006-12-25 20:15:11 · answer #3 · answered by Katz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to make it a very special day for her, and give her a happy family.....then after the festivities die down, try talking to her about it.
She probably just wants everyone to have a great Christmas, but if there's been a lot of stress around your house (and at this time of the year there usually is!), she may be particularly sensitive to it and just need some consolation that everything's ok.
2006-12-25 00:03:34 · answer #4 · answered by CW 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
ur child is sub consciously feeling that her family is not happy.. in the true context.. is there some stress in the family.. if yes.. get her to know that she is not the reason for the stress and yes.. the family is still happy.. better still try removing the strain in the relationship.
ur child is merly manifesting her heartfelt desire to santa who is suppossed to give whatever one asks for.
if u dont have problems around.. then probably u can ask her to share her secret of santa with u.. this way u will get her talking..
2006-12-25 07:17:51 · answer #5 · answered by howiwishicould 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children see everythingand they hear everything. even when you think they aren't listening or paying attention, they are.
She's 10yrs old. she knows what a happy family is, duh. she watches other families, see her friends' families, reads about families in books, and see them on t.v.
It's not invasion of privacy for a parent to know what their child is doing. This how we prevent another child shooting in our schools.
You need to talk to her before the big day, you don't want her crying on christmas. If you and your spouse is under stress, or have been fightin/arguing. She may think that you're not happy. You need to be open with her and honest with her.
My son is 7yrs.old. and I've never kept anything from him. He knows that what goes on between his dad and I has nothing do with him. We constantly reasure him that we love him.
And then I explain to him that no family is perfect, and nobody's happy all the time. Even people in love(like mom&dad) argue and fight over things.
Do this with your daughter and she will thank you for this. Maybe not now but someday, she will.
2006-12-25 04:01:22 · answer #6 · answered by pinksoftrosa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is definitely something you need to talk about with your child...plus, at 10 she SURELY knows that there is no Santa, and she intended for you to find that note and read it, so she is trying to tell you something. How will she feel if you don't mention it??
2006-12-26 01:21:55 · answer #7 · answered by Cris O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad left us when I was 4. I once wrote a letter to Santa asking him to bring my dad home. Kids are so innocent and honest, your child was sincerely asking Santa for what she wants for Christmas.
2006-12-25 00:05:05 · answer #8 · answered by tiny_tim 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
aww
dito the other answers.
is there anything..'not right' going on at home right now? IE-fighting, etc.
if there is fighting that she see's I bet she just wants you all to get along, etc.
you can try to 'fix' that, by not fighting or whatever in front of her, then maybe ask her about it.
she's asking santa though, so I dont think it's something that should be let go.
it's something she obviously wants to talk about with someone & make better.
Good luck!!
2006-12-25 00:00:45 · answer #9 · answered by Shellberry 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't talk to her about it because she left it for "santa" and she'll not beleive in santa anymore , but she might of saw you and your husband/boyfriend fighting or something and its going to be Christmas thats why she asked for a happy santa...
2006-12-25 00:00:24 · answer #10 · answered by kelsiegran 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋