Sometimes I think people don't think I like them and don;t want to talk to them but I really do like them and I'm just shy and don't usually say much.
2006-12-24 15:52:46 · 19 answers · asked by leena 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You can smile without talking. A smile at someone would be a good indication youre not a snob.
2006-12-24 15:54:40 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem in appearing aloof even when I didn't want to. I would analysis people and make a decision on whether I would want to talk to them, all the while hanging back and appearing unsocial. My friend said that the first time she saw me, how much of a snob I appeared to be because I wouldn't talk to her. She is now one of my best friends. I now just try and approach people and talk about something (more about them to get them chatting back) however painful or awkward it might be at first. If it's a disaster, I will then make the decision on whether to talk to them in future. I also try not to plan what I will say to avoid procrastinating, instead just walk up and say hi and go from there. In the last year, my friends and newer friends have commented on my more social persona.
Give it shot.
2006-12-24 16:06:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the same situation. I've learned to try and smile as often as possible, and also nod.
It's hard. I mean, the shy person doesn't want to seem "interested" to a person who isn't also "interested," but I've learned that there is a bigger payoff in being the friendly person of two people, even if it is not returned.
It would be better to send out a thousand invitations, and only get accepted by 100, then to send out 20, and get accepted by all 20.
2006-12-24 16:02:06 · answer #3 · answered by perfectlybaked 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem in middle school. Over the years in high school I learned to smile more, walk with my head up, don't stare at people, but don't walk around avoiding everyone either, and whatever you do, no matter how cold you are, don't fold your arms across your chest. That is the ultimate "stay away" gesture and people are less likely to approach you when you are doing that.
Also, get your more outgoing friends to let people know you are shy and have them introduce you to people on a more one on one basis rather than you versus a huge group all at once. When you get to know people one by one, they will tell their friends, who will tell their friends what a nice person you are after all.
2006-12-25 21:43:33 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because you don't talk that much and they are wondering what you're thinking. If you have to keep them as friends, try talking about a subject you like. For example, purses , shoes, weather. You want a general subject, like what I said above, not too personal. These people might be intimidated by you, as I said they don't know whats on you mind. Its GOOD for them. I would try and get other friends that like you the way you are. Good Luck.
2006-12-24 19:29:29 · answer #5 · answered by CURTIS TERI C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to talk a mile a minute to engage people. You can converse at your own pace by keying in to what people are saying and simply giving some input, not all of it. You can move closer to the action instead of lurking in the corner. Eye contact is also a very important part of communication.
2006-12-24 15:57:16 · answer #6 · answered by act as if 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I recommend getting the audio tape or CD of "How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less" by Nicholas Boothman. It's full of great ideas on how to act when introduced to others that help you come across better. He covers body language as well - so you don't always have to talk to come across better!
2006-12-25 14:34:04 · answer #7 · answered by Charlamaine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be you, smiling is a good suggestion. Don't worry about the people who judge you, because those are the true snobs. Just be kind to your fellow man and all will be good.
2006-12-24 16:29:36 · answer #8 · answered by answer111 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same situation with me.
A lot of people misinterpret quietness with being snobby.
"I'm not a phony-friendly guy and I'm usually very quiet and not a big laugher, so some people might take that for rudeness and being mean. If anyone ever got that impression, I apologize. I love all my fans and really appreciate all their support!"-->Jesse McCartney
2006-12-24 16:02:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
snobs are usually not very polite. if you remain polite, then people will not think of you as a snob.
2006-12-24 17:01:00 · answer #10 · answered by heyrobo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋