I am 31yrs old, my bf is 21yrs old. We are extremely in love with one another and have never been in a relationship like ours before so everything is new. He likes to go over the pastor of our church who he also calls his family house every now and then and I hate it. Why you ask, because when he goes over there he always says he's coming back the same day, but then the same day ends up with a call that he can't get a ride back till tomorrow, then tomorrow turns into the another day and before you know it, it's almost a week that I don't see him. It's not that I feel he's cheating, I know he's not. I've stayed over there myself before and know what kind of family it is. He looks at them as his brothers and sisters, mother and father. They are a very church going people. I just don't like being alone and having him away. I feel when he decided to have this family he chose a new life. He should be here where he belong not there. Am I wrong for saying he shouldnt stay anywhere but here?
2006-12-24 15:50:00 · 7 answers · asked by Happy Being Me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe he is to young for a serious relationship!
2006-12-24 15:54:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean there are a yes and no answer. I'd say yea u r wrong becuz he's a grown man, he can hang out wherever he wants. But i say no ur NOT wrong becuz no guy should stay at anyone house for days. I dont care if its a pastor's family or not. And dont believe that brother sister thing cuz the same **** happen 2 me. My boyfriend was sleepin wit sumone he "called" his sister.
But overall sweetie, do wat ya heart tells u 2 do. Tell him how u feel. But remember, ur 13 and he's 21. You still have a lot to learn.
good luck
2006-12-24 15:56:22 · answer #2 · answered by mizva2bk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's obviously not ready for a relationship. He may not even know this himself, but he's showing you that he is not ready for one , and you being mature yourself you have to think....Could there be someone else out there for you ? Are you having fun in the relationship? Is it holding your intrest...He's young and you can not expect him to commit love. He just hit the legal drinking age, the number 21 should speak for itself :[
2006-12-24 16:34:20 · answer #3 · answered by Esmi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your absolutely right! If he goes to church there is a part in the bible stating that's it is wise to leave you mother and father house , and create a family.
2006-12-24 15:58:43 · answer #4 · answered by Tellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have every right to wish to spend time with him.....he s your b/f.....so that goes without saying. Sit him down, tell him what you just wrote here......and see how he reacts. If you love someone, you should wish to spend time with them........not away with "family".......or at least balance it more equally.
2006-12-24 15:53:34 · answer #5 · answered by purefire41 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's barely out of his teens, and thus is still acting very much like a teen would. its up to you what you do, as is with him. he's done it before and will continue to do so evidently, deal with it or don't!
2006-12-24 15:53:42 · answer #6 · answered by whydiduaskthis? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should tell him it bothers you a bit. if course your not wrong for thinking this but tell him you would like to spend more time with him or be included.
2006-12-24 15:54:48 · answer #7 · answered by oceonsblue9904 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋