How does an ugly guy get confidence for dating?

Question

I had several gf's and people I have dated have told me I am ugly. I have lost all confidence to date anymore. My friends tell me I should keep trying, telling me there are women out there that want a nice guy with a great future, but I find that to be total crap honestly. I have a great paying job, have a degree from a top ten university, I laugh alot, can cook almost any meal, love to travel . . . How do I turn everything around and try to gain some confidence? I honestly don't think I have any left

Answer 1

Hi,
The first step is to accept that you are ugly. Once, you really accept that you are ugly, and you can live with it, then you can start enjoying life again. I say this because in life, there are ugly and beautiful things. It easy to distinguish and say that a "thing" is more beautiful than another "thing". When it comes to people there is the same difference, but since we want to be politically correct etc, we use the word nice etc when we don't physically like the person. By doing this, we lie to the other person.

So going back to the first step: You have to truly accept that you are ugly. If you don't, you will be chasing an imaginary goal, which you will never be able to reach. That is you will not be liked by women. I mean they will like the sense of humor etc etc, but that doesn't get you very often into where you want to go(I hope you got the meaning).

Then you will fall in the traps of marketers etc, and you will start buying nice clothes , nice cars(that is if you have money)etc. You will eventually waste your money with the wrong type of girls, ... they will exploit you just to get your money.


The second step, after you accept that you are ugly, is to look at women the way you want them to look at you. If you are always looking for a beautiful woman, and you look only at the beautiful women, because you don't like the ugly ones, then how do you expect that a beautiful woman will look at you. You don;t like ugly woman - woman don't like ugly man - sympifing.. mand and woman don't like Ugly.

Therefore, you have to start choosing woman, not by how the look like, but by how you personally like them. Choosing a woman doesn't only mean to date them, but you can also become friends with them. (just remember it is not their fault you are ugly so they can actually be your friend).

The third and final step, is to be yourself as you are, not as you want to be. Stop being a wannabe, and be the man you are. This may not get you the most beautiful girls, but at list it will make you live in peace with yourself.


And if you still feel sad after you accepted that you are ugly, and you cannot live with it, then start going to the gym; start going to a plastic surgeon; and start paying for escorts...


hopefully it made you think...

Answer 2

Ugly? Yes if he's got the right personality No confidence? I'm a pretty shy girl and my own self esteem and confidence isn't that high, so i think it would be better for me to find a guy who's confident so that he can help me be less shy. Though there's something about shy guys that makes them really cute, these guys who enjoy being supported and encouraged before doing something. I don't know, maybe i find these guys cute because they look a lot like me. I've always tended to fall for the big shy nerds who hide a lot and keep quiet. They're not the best looking men around usually for sure, but when you dig a bit and have them opening themselves up to you and showing you who they really are, they usually have the greatest personalities one could ever find.

Answer 3

u r hooking up with the wrong women. you r finding woman that r looking for superficial looks instead of substance. Go out and be yourself and let that intelligence and great personality shine through. If u go or hang somewhere often they will get to know your personality and see whats on the inside if u go new places all the time they will only see the outer shell. Some woman can appreciate a quality man for whats on the inside. Heck if I wasnt attached I would be seeking a man like u. Good luck

Answer 4

Well, physical attraction has a lot to do with how you carry yourself mentally. Have faith in yourself and you will seem more attractive to other people. I don't think I am exceedingly attractive but I have a terrific personality that really works well for my appearance. I can attract anyone because I am very confident in MY own skin. You can be too!!! Just forget what those mean, hurtful people said to you. You ARE attractive because you are a sweet guy who just needs to find someone who has a lot more substance than the other losers you've been with.

Good Luck & Happy Holidays!

Answer 5

You are going out with the wrong girls, they sound like a bunch of slappers after you for money. Anyway nobody oozes confidence, even movie stars can't sustain relationships and turn to drink and drugs. I bet in a couple of years you will be wondering why you even felt this way because it sounds like you're just at a low ebb at the moment, life will get better I promise. Good luck.

Answer 6

Confidence is key for dating, and confidence rests solely in the way you see yourself and the way you project you personality. Even if others have said you're unattractive, make yourself feel good. Dress with taste, be clean, smell good, and stay calm. Don't get too excited, don't be loud and try to impress. Take your qualities (cooking, for example) and discreetly use them. invite a girl over and cook her a fine dinner. be suave, stylish.

Answer 7

No one is ugly. We are all different. We are all "unique"
It's what's inside that matters. Perhaps you should stop looking
No woman is that important that you have to prove anything.
Some of the "So called" handsome guys/gals are so "Ugly"
INSIDE and some are evil. You seem to have a more important
thing than a lot of people. You sound like a good person

Answer 8

women will tell you "looks aren't important" and they are feckin' liars! Damn lieing B's......so just accept this fact and find a girl who is not so shallow....they do exist...only she'll have to be not so pretty her self or just really insecure!....I'm jokin' bud...you should post a pic on "hotornot" and see what you rank... you can't be ugly! surely......

Answer 9

Try,Try and Try again,one lucky woman will get you in the end!
Merry Christmas

Answer 10

At least you can get a date .