What should I do about my dad?

Question

My dad's father past away a long time ago and I've noticed alot that he's been really badly effected. I remember after the first few days his father died he kind of started not doing anything with me anymore. Now i'm in his teens, he never does anything with me and hardly even looks at me or my mother. He has grown terribly out of shape and constantly screams about how he hates his job and practically has no initiative to do anything. He always yells and seems like he's mad, it's been atleast eight years since my grandpa died and my dad seems's really affected. Does anybody have any suggestions on what I should do?

well the reason I brought this up was my mom was getting mad. It really freaked me out because my mom kept confronting my dad and he just pretended as if he didn't hear anything, kind of like actually in a movie. he just kept ignoring her as if she wasn't talking. I was actually surprised because my mom told me about when she was dating my dad when she was younger, my dad's grandpa died and I guess he didn't take it very well either. So she told me when my grandpa died my dad actually did go to a psychiatrist/psychologist (not sure which one) and he prescribed medicine for him. But they did really nothing to help my dad.

Answer 1

try cheerin him up my takin u n ur parents 4 dinner or any place he use enjoy bein at

i hope ur dad gets better

Answer 2

It sounds like your dad is depressed and has been for quite some time. He is 'probably' not still depressed about his father's passing, but this could have triggered it. He needs counseling but probably if you suggest it this will not help. I'd say you'd be better off to develop your own interests and keep in mind that he will not always be depressed, so leave the door open for the time in later years when he will feel better.

Answer 3

i'll answer this way . . . If your father had a concerning discoloring on his skin and family noticed it and thoughts turned to concern and wonder of skin cancer . . . ( maybe your father noticed it also but just let it go, not careing ) . . . would his family simply just let it go also with no encouragement of him to seek medical opinion and attention ? What if that skin discolorataion grew in size over an 8 year period...he does'nt seem phased by it, yet the family still notices it, yet still does not take firm action in getting him to seek medical advise, attention. Point I'm making here is . . . just because emotions, illness / hurt of the mind can't literally be seen as any other physical ailement, people tend to let emotional illness go by the wayside. Sounds like your father has had a very clear reaction that was stimulated by the death of his father...his family notices, yet let's him go 8 years without getting him to a doctor. If it was a skin ailement...possibly cancer...he would be in front of a doctor right away being treated with chemo and / or operation to remove skin cancer. What your father has sounds like depression...a very real illness...can be treated and healed with depression medicine combined with ' talk therapy ' (counseling). Why has this gone on for 8 years and not treated. People with depression generally won't go to a doctor on their own...he needs to be clearly, lovingly, yet firmly brought before a medical doctor to set him on his way to healing his depression. Heart wishes to you and your family.

Answer 4

my dads dad didnt ie but his grandpa did...and they were really close...i dont think anyone on this site can really help you or your dad...nobody can help anyone who has lost a parent and it doesnt matter what the parent has done weather they were an alcoholic,abusive,or did drugs even of they were the most perfet dad in the world it hurts more than anything trust me...if i were you though i would go up and give your dad a hug i wuld just hold on to him and whisper "i miss grandpa to but everything is gonna be alright" i am not telling you this will work, but i would give it a try..

sorry about him dying...no matter what the years are it can still feel like yesterday when they left your life forever...it isnt just something he is gonna get over he might never get over it just try your hardest to give him the love ad support he needs...make him a homemade card...

something...

GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 5

Your father sounds mentally ill. He's been depressed since his father died. He needs a doctor. Ask your mother if she will help him get some help. He's not really mad at you, you know. He's mad that his father is gone and he doesn't see that he's hurting his wife and son. Your mother is the one who needs to talk to him about it. You can tell him how you feel, too. Maybe he'll get the help he needs.

Answer 6

I think ur dad needs help! Talk 2 ur mom & c if she agrees. then talk 2 ur dad. It does sound like ur dad is going through a midlife crisis. He probably has NOT greaved 4 his father nor excepted it. He could also feel abonded. Merry Christmas!!

Answer 7

sounds like your Dad is going threw a midlife crisis or he needs some counseling. You should speak to your Mom about your feelings and see if she agrees with you
good luck

Answer 8

Wow, how sad for you and your family. I don't really know if you would feel comfortable talking to your father about it, but it might be worth a try. Let him know how you can see his pain. Also for your own benefit you should see a counsellor at school to talk with them about how you feel at home. Good luck to you!!

Answer 9

well the one who has something to do of it........is your dad. He s obviously never grieved the loss of his dad.........or is feeling that his dad's age.........may be sooner or later the age he passes away himself. He needs counseling......but whether he ll go for it...is another story too

Answer 10

When you loose someone special you feel bad....just give him more time....he will get through eventually.