I told this boy that i liked him and he said he just wants to be friends, but i don't want to be just friends i want to be with him. I just might be in love with this guy and it's killing me that he won't tell me how he feels, so for christmas i was planning on making a move on him and see what he does/says.
2006-12-24 15:44:23 · 30 answers · asked by Nigerian Babe Gurl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Men just say exactly what they feel girlfriend. If he said he just wants to be friends... that is exactly what he meant. Don't push it with him. You'll just end getting rejected and feeling foolish. Besides... even if you did make a move on him and he accepts.... you would never know if he just wanted to "get some" cause he's already said he just wants to be friends anyway. Don't try to force a guy to like you. You'll just make yourself look desperate and cheap. Trust me... you'll love another. It maybe don't seem like it right now.. but you will love again!
2006-12-24 15:48:50 · answer #1 · answered by Ocean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry sweetie, but in one sentence you say he told you he just wanted to be Friends, and in another sentence you say he won't tell you how he feels??
He told you how he feels when he said he just wanted to be your friend. If you make a move on him after he said this, you're going to either look foolish or desperate.
Move on to someone that you care about and will care about you too.
I realize that you "might be in love" with him, but trust me, you're going to find/know a lot of guys that you "might" be in love with, but not every one will reciprocate that feeling.
One day you will meet the "right one", until then, just have fun with the "right now" and try to just have fun for awhile without getting into anything heavy until you find a man that feels the same way about you as you feel about him.
2006-12-24 23:54:01 · answer #2 · answered by slpkwp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is a guy's perspective. I Wouldn't do that. If he told you no once allready then you are only setting yourself up for hurt. The best thing you can do is just be his friend and hope he comes around. If not move on and find a better looking cooler guy. Don't get stuck on one guy. You have a lot of life to fall in love. Live a little first.
2006-12-24 23:49:05 · answer #3 · answered by Rob N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question for you is... Are you sure you are ready? If you already told him that you like him and he said "lets just be friends." He means lets just be friends. Throwing sex or flirting or whatever you may decide to do, can only make things worse for you emotionally. Are you ready for the emotional baggage that could arise out of this situation. Not only that, if you plan to have sex with this guy this wont guarantee you a relationship. How would you handle that? When the right man comes along, you wont have to "make moves" on him, you wont have to jump through hurdles to get his attention, and he would want to be more than your friend... he would want to be your husband. If he just wants to be friends, don't complicate things for yourself. True love is more than just something physical. It spiritual, mental, and then is physical. Make sure the feelings you are having is really love. Lots of people confuse Love with lust! Once again, make sure you are ready! His just wanting to be friends could be a blessing in disguise.
2006-12-24 23:55:46 · answer #4 · answered by hypnotiq8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Wouldn't Make A Move On Him If He Just Want's To Be Friend's.
2006-12-24 23:46:17 · answer #5 · answered by Dark Prince 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being friends may be a good thing for you too! After hanging out with him as a friend you can learn more about him and his interests...how his mood changes...what he likes, dislikes, how he treats others, what his goals are, and simply if you two have lots in common..... You might find out you really don't like him afterall or he might find out he really does like you too... Friends is the great way to start any relationship.... Sure, I'm older but I married my friend and now we are best friends *smiles*
If he is honest about being friends that's a good thing. You never want to force anything. Put the situation in reverse. How would you react? It sucks when you really like someone who may not see you the same way.... sometimes it is just timing.... what else is going on in his life? busy? family? other interests...?? or simply doesn't have the same feelings.... lots to think about ....
Best of luck!
2006-12-24 23:51:38 · answer #6 · answered by eastern NC Sensei 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure you shoudld try because life is about being impulsive sometimes but if he doesn't show any signs of wanting more from you then move on, you shouldn't be in a relationship with a guy who doesn't love you the same way you love him
there is a guy out there who loves you just as much as you love him and you shouldnt waster your time on a guy who doesnt feel that way
good luck
2006-12-24 23:51:58 · answer #7 · answered by thatclairegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men are turned-off with girls who do the first move. Just do good things to him and always make sure to look your best. You can tell him you like him in a cool way but not that serious that you seemed to propose...If he would not respond leave him awhile to ponder... who knows he's just playing hard to get...lol...i mean girls should always give value to self respect...otherwise, who would you think will respect you and love you. Men are possessive in nature and they always want a gf who is not cheap...
2006-12-25 00:00:44 · answer #8 · answered by wynx888 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With sex comes responsibility. Be prepared for rejection. Respect yourself and play adult games when you are one.Like the old saying goes, "If ya can't run with the big dogs, stay on the porch!" Be kind to yourself for others may not be. Merry Christmas. You are special and you are the best that ever walked.
2006-12-24 23:53:01 · answer #9 · answered by firestarter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should of leave him alone for right now at least. Since he already told you he just wants to be your friend, if you are too desperate, you may probably lose him as a friend for all. Start being as a friend, and he may change his mind later.
2006-12-24 23:51:17 · answer #10 · answered by Mochi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋