stay home or move out?

Question

i am almost 18 years and have put up w/ years of crap from my parents and sister.....i dont have a problem w/ them just im sick of listening to my parents arguing w/ each other..........and them arguing w/ my sister......im also sick of my sister stealing my stuff all the time, keeping me up all night....i have a part time and a full time job and in high school so am not home that much but when i am it is hell.......but about a month ago my parents told me they were going to build me a room so can stay here and save my money while im in nursing school....and they are really trying to put the guilt trip on me now.......what do i do....i want to leave home so bad....i dont want to hurt their feelings even though they all have put me through years of hurting and hell......is staying home smart or what advice please.......................its been alm ost eightteen years and they are just now trying to fix things???????

Answer 1

If u r able 2 support ur self then I suggust u move out maybe then ur parents will realize what they did. They r trying 2 make u stay a child they r in denial that u r growing up!
Tell ur sister 2 get a job (if she's old enough) & start saving so that she can move out soon as well.
It sounds like ur parents have 2 grow up & act like adults!
Tell ur sister 2 stop stealing ur self!

I'm almost in the same situation- 26 married live w/ mom & hubby. Mom doesn't want me 2 leave she took care her mother wants me 2 do the same thing! I want 2 move out hopefully in a few months!!Merry Christmas!

Answer 2

I had the same problem when i was deciding what to do ... so i can sympathise... in the end it was the cost of living away which was one of the main reasons for staying at home. Unless you are lucky and have parents that are going to pay for all your accommodation and bills plus books travel ... and all the other wee things you don't realise! In the end i decided to stay home and it was the best decision i ever made! I still made brand new friends and still get to enjoy the uni experience but its nice to know i get to come home to a nice cooked meal and my mums always there when i need anything plus i didn't have to try to make a long distance relationship with my boyfriend work. If its independence your looking for then i can understand why you want to move away but don't underestimate how much independence you will have staying at home... they make you work hard at uni and you need to find the answers yourself. So i guess I'm glad i stayed at home ... i hope this helps and no matter what you need to make the decision that you feel is right for you :) Good Luck

Answer 3

Living alone without financial stability is nearly impossible... and usually at that age you don't have a steady career or income to afford it... HOWEVER, if you have 1 or 2 really reliable friends -moving in an apt can be workable with your PT job & school
(you will be going to school right?)

Reliable being the keyword here, also don't move in with people in a different scene than you - ie strangers. Too much drama for 19. The biggest detractor from you moving is school. Because it's so hard to balance a steady paycheck and school work, you have to think about the stress you'll be going through just to live the way you want.

Answer 4

You should probably stay home; you will be far more likely to finish school that way, and will have more money when you DO finish. As you said, you are not home that much, and that should help. Could you get a lock on your door to keep your sister out? Hide your valuables better or keep them in your car? Unless the fighting is just unbearable, try to stick it out for the financial advantages. I was SO HAPPY to move from my home when I turned 18, but I went to a residential college in another state, and made my peace with my parents a decade later... Hey, if they ARE trying to fix things - why not let them? If they extend the olive branch and you swat it away, you may regret it later.

Answer 5

I am only saying this because I was there before. Stay home and finish your nursing school. I know you are having a really hard time living with them but it will only get harder for you to finish school out on your own. It may seem like it will be better but trust me it will be much harder. Finish school then go as far away as you want because you will be able to do that and not worry how you will pay rent or who you will have to live with to keep the bills paid. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 6

Well, I think u should get out of there. Try finding a roommate or get a studio apartment the my cost $300-400 dollars. If they feel guilty then tell them to help pay for the apartment. You need to focus since your in nursing school and u can't with all of that going on. Oh you also need to put ur sister in check about taking your stuff.

Answer 7

It may be hell at home for you, but if you have a chance to stay there rent free while you go to school, then I would say try to tough it out. There is no reason for you to tackle life on your own financially until absolutely necessary.

By going to school while letting your parents give financial support is only going to be beneficial to your career in the long run. Having said this, I don't know your entire situation, so good luck in whatever you decide.

Answer 8

I am not going to lie to you...you are young to be moving out...but if that is what will make u happy then that is what u need to do. i am 21 and just moved out of my parents house last summer, they were very upset but they got over it, Just know that it is a lot of work...rent, groceries, cable, phone, heat, electricity....if u can afford all that stuff then i say go for it. Good luck!

Answer 9

Leave. Quietly and respecfully. Tell them thank you for the offer of a room, but that you are ready to spread your wings a little. Ask if it would be okay if you came home occationally for a home cooked meal. (makes them feel needed) Don't forget to tell them you love them.

Answer 10

well if you financially can t make it on your own.......that answers the question for now. But you still even after you move, have to deal with how you feel of them.........let s face it.....family can be our hardest critics....but you still should love them...........even if they have times when its hard to do so. If you can make it on your own......then go on.......but don t burn the bridge behind you in case things don t go as you planned.