I'm 24 and currently living at home with my parents and younger (21 yo) brother. I'm planning on buying a house when I move out 6-8 months from now. I do like living by myself, and have before back in college. I moved back to my parent's house after I graduated from college but lately i've really starting to get that itch to leave and start brand new. As in - New job, New house, new Everything! I just got the new job and a good raise (thank goodness) so i'm ready to move. The thing is my younger brother (21) and also one older brother (28) are in the same position as me, all of us want to get a house, but I'm not sure if living together for another 15yrs (15yr mortgage) is a good idea. We do get along, but in the last 2 years we've really changed alot; Different friends, Different interests, Don't hang out, etc. Our relationship is still strong but we're not "friends". So should we commit to living together in the same house or should all three of us live seperately??
2006-12-24 15:40:17 · 7 answers · asked by Sam A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's not a "money issue" nor is it a "trust" issue, yes I trust them both and money is not an issue.
I'm 50 / 50 on this because I really - really would like living alone again but at the same time living together makes more sense.
PS. No Girlfriend yet either...
2006-12-24 15:53:24 · update #1
Okay, you've lived together for 20+ years as is...I understand that you get along and having others help pay the mortgage is a nice idea, but what happens when you get a boyfriend and your brothers get girlfriends?? What happens when you want to have romantic nite?? Dinner, perhaps a bath, massage, make love... Do you really want your siblings there during that???
I would think with one brother being 28 and you being 24 that you should have your own lives... different houses. If you don't think you're able to get a house on your own, then just get an appartment for now... or stay at home another year and save up so you can buy your own home and i fyou want, rent out rooms to friends or whatever, but not family. It can make for awkward moments.
Good luck and merry Christmas
2006-12-24 15:46:44 · answer #1 · answered by jessicadiamond_4einc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should get the house together & get out a house together! It could draw u closer.
My brothers have been living together for 9 yrs (oldest brother is married32). My other brother(30) has moved out but then came back he couldn't afford 2 b on his own. he couldn't move back home since parents had moved into smaller house. I think the time 2 ur selves will draw u closer! My brothers r each others best friend!
2006-12-24 15:51:50 · answer #2 · answered by Missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you buy the house and put it in your name a charge rent to both. Try it out, if it doesn't work then you won't have the problem of selling the house. They're family - try it.
2006-12-24 18:20:41 · answer #3 · answered by Meg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will be a bad move...I have seen people try this and it put stress on all their relationships. Its better you all go your separate ways, this way you will all get along and stay close....
2006-12-24 16:08:56 · answer #4 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at your age you should try living alone for a year and see how things work out,then you will know if you want someone living with you.Good luck in what ever you decide.
2006-12-24 16:05:22 · answer #5 · answered by acr_lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should get your own places. You all have different interest, different friends and I think over time things would get uncomfortable for all of you.
2006-12-24 15:52:14 · answer #6 · answered by Texas T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move in
2006-12-24 15:59:23 · answer #7 · answered by DLAR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋