I am very sad, not even Christmas makes me happy enogh... I dated this guy on my vacations (he lives at the US and I don't) but every summer I go there. Ok the thing is that this guy gave me my first kiss, he showed me a lot (i'm still a virgin 4 the record) , he made me feel so many good things, he is like so perfect: funny, outgoing, sexy/cute, makes me laugh, smells SOOO good, he treats me like a princess, etc. The thing is that I can't forget him, I feel so sad, and so alone. We still talk twice a week. But a few friends told me that I had to be realistic, and that it may not be possible for us to get back together. (I'm going next year again, and I'll be staying for years). So we could pick up were we left off. But I don't want it to hurt so bad if it doesn't happen, besides it already does because of the distance...
Help me please.... HOW TO GIVE UP HOPE? HOW TO CURE MYSELF FROM LOVE?
in your opinion DO U THINK IT'SPOSSIBLE FOR US TO PICK UP WHERE WE LEFT NEXT YEAR OR NOT?
2006-12-24 15:35:57 · 18 answers · asked by Latina Hottie! W.Chocolate 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
totally possible to pick it up where you left off. Happened to me, can happen to you.
Love hurts sometimes.
Best thing to do is to stop obsessing over it and find things to fill your time that you enjoy doing.
Just because you cannot be with the one you love does ot mean that life has to stop.
He will appreciate you so much more if you have other interests, it will make you more interesting.
Young love is very powerful. Try to hold onto the good feelings you get from him instead of letting them turn to hurt.
I know it is hard, but if it was easy it would not be as good.
Good luck.
2006-12-24 17:45:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to pick up where you left off, but it's unlikely and unreasonable to expect this to happen.
The fact that you talk twice a week is interesting and almost moves the odds more into your favor, but a year without face to face contact is a long time.
The most likely scenario is that one or both of you will find someone very special where you live.
What you have though is a wonderful start on relationships where you have learned that it can be exciting and memorable.
I don't know how old you are so it limits the response potential. What I can say is that you need to enjoy what you've had, what you have, and be realistic about the possibilities, good and bad, of a long distance relationship.
Sometimes love hurts and sometimes it rocks! It's always a wild ride with lots of twists and turns and up and downs. Make the best of it and never dwell on what didn't work out.
2006-12-24 18:20:32 · answer #2 · answered by Hank Hill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! Although our stories might not be the same but I kinda understand how you feel. I do feel the way you feel. Im seeing this nice guy, know him for already 7 mths. We talked in the phone everyday. We are not a couple so I dont think I can treat him as though Im his gf. I guess we're having an open relationship. I dont want to be hurt again cos it sucks bad time. He is liked what you described about your guy fren. I dont know, if it doesnt work btn us, I guess im gona be sad but I pray and hope for the best. I guess not everyone can understand what we are going thru, maybe only few ppl can. I hope the best for u, try your best, do what you think is good for you and this relationship u are having. You can try to pick up where u have left, without trying u wldnt know. All the best to u pal :)
2006-12-24 16:20:24 · answer #3 · answered by Adrilina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be optimistic about it. I think your friends are right, it is a possibility so you should find ways to help yourdelf just in case the worst shoudl happen. Find activities to do (things like art,sports, etc) to keep your mind occupied. And if no proble arises, you'll still be better off because you aren't hung up on this guy all the time and you have lots of different parts to your life.
2006-12-24 18:01:52 · answer #4 · answered by Kaiya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything is possible, but be realistic, does he seem to want to pick up where things left off?? Is he dating in the meantime?? Did he promise you anything?? These are questions you need to ask yourself. There are many men out there that are kind, sweet, funny, sexy, and smell good. Don't put all you hens in one basket, as they say. There are a sea full of fish. Keep fishing while you are enjoying your trip.
2006-12-24 16:34:01 · answer #5 · answered by doris_38133 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.k. I get it this guy makes you feel all fussy inside and that's a good thing as for the distance thing not much you can do right now but write eacother or phone calls, now when you do see him and spend time with him all I can tell you is take things one day at a time and slowly to see where things are going to lead to for he may be mr. right or he could be a wolf in prince clothing, B yourself around him and let him b himself too for all things get revealed in good time. I wish you all the best of luck on finding yourself a good man and i do hope this guy is it.
2006-12-24 17:34:55 · answer #6 · answered by outlawprincess5321 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me save you the heartaches, i have been in your spot..Long distance relationships sucks for the most part....there is no magic bullet, you already know the answer but you cant see the writings on the wall coz you love him, and love makes you blind...Love should make you happy, not sad.. Relationships are 2 way streets, you wouldnt be feeling bad if he shows you the same love that you show him... the only way to forget him is to stop talking to him, delete pics, etc... and meet other people who practically can treat you (maybe better!!) and love you the way you deserve......
2006-12-24 15:58:42 · answer #7 · answered by sam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey anythings possible. as far as a cure for love time will only cure it and you will never forget him but you will learn to deal with your feelings and emotions. Always have hope that when you go back there is a possibility that something could happen but at the same time dont pin your entire life on it either
2006-12-24 15:42:48 · answer #8 · answered by the_man11215 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep him as a friend...Try to keep your feelings at a distance because you don't want to get hurt. Let him know you are coming back and hopefully the two of you can hang out some times. Don't ever make yourself so venerable to another person that you lose yourself. Always stay in control.
2006-12-24 15:54:14 · answer #9 · answered by tastemeagin 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's possible. But a lot of things can happen in a years time.
If it were me in your position,I would keep in contact with him through letters or email. But keep your head about you. Try to stay in control of your emotions. Best wishes
2006-12-24 15:54:40 · answer #10 · answered by doggybag300 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋