Im 21. I have a child already. this is my second abortion. I know that abortion is wrong but having kids when you are not ready is also. I feel bad now and depressed. My boyfriend isnt much help. He ask me how i felt and i said that i regret it but i know its for the better. He said oh great now you are going to be depressed and other stuff and that made me more depressed. I wanted this baby. I dont know what to do. Is this a reason to leave my man? I love him but I dont want to get preganant again and i dont want abortion to be our birth control method (and other birth controls suck). He cant be with somebody who wont give give sex. BUt he is so special. Will i get ovet this abortion soon. Has anybody felt like this?
2006-12-24 15:26:53 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Well put all the love you have unto the child you already have. There are better men out there even if you dont see them.
2006-12-26 02:58:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, im not going to knock the abortion thing. but
/.../ if you arent using birthcontrol EXPECT to get pregnant. have you checkd all the options available? There are some awesome contraceptives out there. USE A CONDOM if nothing else. if you keep having unprotected sex, you will get pregnant. If youre man cant respect you enough to use some kind of protection than drop his @&& off at the corner and get on with your life. no ones worth the hurt and pain you are going through right now. Please check into birth control options... the pill, the shot, the ring, the patch, the iud, something. try this page for some options that DONT suck... http://www.knowmycycle.com/birth-control-method.aspx
You can only have so many abortions before your body wears out and you stop being able to have babies...also, dotn do it because your bf wants you to do it. if he refuses to take parentage, then forget about his *** and raise that baby as your own. you dont need someone like him if hes ...well youre not going to see it that way because you love him, but at least onsider what some of these othe peopel are saying
WHICH SUCKS WORSE? Birth control vs. the pain and hurt you go through when you have an abortion? Think about it, hun.
2006-12-25 00:56:09 · answer #2 · answered by psychoticangel_kitty 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I didn't feel like that. If you wanted the baby, you should have just kept it. I think you let your boyfriend make your choice for you. Which is really stupid, but so is not using birth control. What is wrong with you? Expect another abortion soon if you keep this up. Why not use condoms or 'the pill'? Since, you're not worrying about STI's the pill, the shot, the nuva ring or the patch is a good choice. It's more effective than condoms at preventing pregnancy.
2006-12-25 02:41:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say that your boyfriend sounds like a jerk and not that special. If you insist on staying with him get on birth control. I assume he will not use a condom? Go on the pill, or the patch, or even the depo shot (I personally did not like the shot, but you only need to do it once every 3 months)... You take control. Yes it is probably better you had an abortion, but no one should have one unless they truly wanted/needed one. It sounds like you had one because of your boyfriend.
You will be fine. Just get your self on some form of birth control!
Good luck
2006-12-25 00:55:02 · answer #4 · answered by jordansmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For god sake, live without sex. Now you have already experienced sex and have got pregnant 2 times, there is a good possibility you will be pregnant again (with that boy or any other boy).
You know practice masturburation and never indulge in sex. This can work if you never indulge in sex because Sex pleasure is greater then masturburation pleasure.
I am 24, a boy and have never indulged in sexual intercourse after getting multiple chances to indulge in them. The reason is simple: I want to be a childfree by a choice and i know if i get addict to sex, i will make a girl pregnant some day. I am enjoying masturburation and gets a satisfactory pleasure from it.
Life has a basic flaw and this whole reproduction system driven by lust and sex is one big puzzle. You and your boy did sex and got extreme pleasure from it. In return, you killed your unborn baby.
Let us know when you get pregnant next time and if you have any shame left, you will not indulge in sex and practice masturburation.
Have you focussed on broader issues? How much you earn or your boy earns? What are your career prospects?
2006-12-25 01:55:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I too recently had an abortion a month ago and i feel hurt every night before i go to bed! Its a feeling thats always going to be there! Just go out and be with some friends! Thats how i cope with it. And for your boyfriend find someone better than him!!
2006-12-24 23:36:26 · answer #6 · answered by sexy sasha 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you sound more concerned about sex & your boyfriend, than about just aborting your baby... as far as not wanting to get pregnant again, then dont & you need to stop using abortion as YOUR form of birth control... you have already let go & aborted TWO babies.. Grow up & get your priorities in order & stop getting pregnant if you dont want to have them...As far as you saying you really wanted this baby, Then you wouldnt have aborted it!!!
2006-12-25 00:49:13 · answer #7 · answered by i wanna know 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you love him alot? instead of doing abortion why don`t you do a birth control. you can ask your family doctor about birth control if you don`t like to use condom, also don`t like to eat pill. then you can do a IU. IU can control your preganancy at least 1 year. don`t afraid to ask your doctor
2006-12-25 01:13:09 · answer #8 · answered by Angeline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is definitely being insensitive. To avoid the issue again get on birth control even if it sucks. Hell, it can't suck worse than you are feeling now.
2006-12-25 00:08:23 · answer #9 · answered by micg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"He cant be with somebody who wont give give sex."
Then, feeling much better about everything is simple! Just keep your legs closed. No more abortions, no more utter jerk for a "boyfriend."
2006-12-25 11:46:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋