Ok so i am with this guy and we have only been together for about 3 months. about a month ago my apartment was robbed and he told me he didnt want me to live there anymore and asked me to move in with him.So i moved in with him. Since i have moved i have not been able to find a job because i have not had a car and he works all day. So while he is at work i clean his house and do laundry and i cook him dinner almost every night... But there has been 3 times that after work he told me he was going to work out and left around 430 or 5 and didnt come home untill 11 or 12 at night. He never called to let me know where he was or anything. But most of the time he stays home with me and we spend time together. Also since i have lived with him i still do not have a key so if i leave i have to base everything on him such as when im going to come home and everything. I dont go out very often but when i do he calls all the time. My dad thinks he is using me because i always cook and clean. so?????
2006-12-24 15:23:35 · 12 answers · asked by Shasta 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well just to let everyone know the only reason i moved in was because i could not move back in with my parents i live in ks and my mom lives in texas and she lives with her bf and my dad and i dont get along. Its only temp till i get another place. Also as far as the key thing goes and him going out with his friends. He just got a divorce at the begining of they year and so he wants to do things he didnt get to do when he was married to her because she was a control freak. And he does not ask me to clean or anything i choose to because i enjoy a clean house and i also think i man shouldnt have to do dishes or laundry and i love to cook. And sometimes he cooks for me... I just dont understand why my dad and my best friend think he is using me. Well my best friend is just mad because now i dont spend all of my time with her because she is not used to me finding someone i really like and not getting scared and running away ( back to her) and now i dont listen to all of her advice.
2006-12-25 05:47:23 · update #1
If he hasn't given you a key, he might be using you as maid service. However, you ARE getting free rent, right? So, you are using him, too. You need to have a key or you need to move out. And you need to discuss ALL of this with your guy so you know where you stand.
2006-12-24 15:27:54 · answer #1 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no i don't think he is using you he not making you do any thing you re are not buying anything so how is he using you as far as the key thing maybe he only had 1 thing go get one made he might be checking where you are at so he want leave and lock you out but no i don't think he's using you . and maybe if you have a problem with him coming in late talk to him but keep in mind he just got out a marriage he might enjoy hanging out with his friends give it time it will die down trust maybe you need to get a job or something to occupy your time and there nothing wrong with cooking and cleaning for your man those are some of women duties around the house talk to b4 u make something out of nothing .
2006-12-25 08:48:41 · answer #2 · answered by sexy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I would say to move out. He should at least trust you enough to give you a key. I could use someone to cook and clean if you need a place to live.
2006-12-24 15:31:20 · answer #3 · answered by foodguy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
youre the maid from the brady bunch! He goes out at night to be with his other chick! Okay hes using you!
2006-12-24 15:33:43 · answer #4 · answered by sexy sasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing someone for 3 months is way too soon to move in with them. Do yourself a big favour and move out. Even if it is back with your parents until you get work. He is being shady staying out without telling you where and is probably up to no good. Also he should be doing his share of the work and giving you a key if he sees this as a partnership. You need to get a job and become independent. Never NEVER rely on any man for financial security.
2006-12-24 15:33:15 · answer #5 · answered by Maurie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
looks like he's got you right where he wants you under lock n key that way he can keep up with you at all times.
2006-12-24 17:35:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have already talked to him about this , with no result, and feel like your standing at the edge, which is shaking -----if you really feel like his using you than know that it is not so........you are free to leave anytime , without even telling him about it ....don't bother locking the door :) He will than feel bad about not giving you the key I bet!
2006-12-24 15:52:11 · answer #7 · answered by Tellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe he is.If not he has serious trust issues.Not giving you a key?.He seems to want a slave not a girlfriend.
2006-12-24 15:33:18 · answer #8 · answered by softy74501 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont move in untilur married
2006-12-24 15:38:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to answer that yourself..but since you have moved in you sound like a wife, that is how most are treated.......
2006-12-24 15:27:30 · answer #10 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋