Alright, it's the holidays and the familys comming to visit.
Now here's the problem, my five year old cousin is...a pincher, she pinches, digs her nails into your skin until it hurts allot and I don't know how to deal with this, I can't hit her, and I can't tell on her being fourteen years old, I need some kind of...eh, protection?
So what do I do about her?
2006-12-24 15:10:48 · 12 answers · asked by curiosityreincarnated 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Thank you all for your help, my cousin last minute didn't come, she's spending christmas with her father instead. So, thankyou so much anayway, I'll pick a bestanswer once I'm less sleepy....too much food...
2006-12-25 11:28:55 · update #1
She is doing this to get a reaction from you. The best thing to do when she does this to you is to say “Ouch! That hurts! If you are choosing to hurt me I don’t want to play with you.” Walk away from her. If she likes being around you, she will stop. If you have other cousins around, act like you are really interested in them. She will not like you ignoring her. You may also set up an activity for you both to do together. If she is aggressive with you, stop and put it away. Tell her "When you are ready to be gentle with me then we can do this some more." When she is gentle with you, tell her “I like to play with you when you don’t hurt me.” Be consistent with her. Hope this helps and happy holidays!
2006-12-24 15:40:56 · answer #1 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Five year olds really can have compassion. The problem is, she probably thinks it's funny when you, a big 14 year old, reacts to her pinches. She may not understand how much it hurts you.
Keep in mind, 5 year olds don't think like older kids and adults. While they may protest and cry when they are pinched, they may not think they can really casue you pain. Pinching her back will not make her understand it hurts you. She only understands it hurts her.
Five year olds can listen. Pick her up and sit her in your lap and talk to her. Explain to her how bad it hurts you to be pinched. Tell her you would rather get a kiss than a pinch - and freely give her a smooch when she wants it.
The pinching is part of getting attention, even negative attention. She's five and wants to be the center of attentions. Give it to her by talking, brushing hair, tickling, smoochies, razzies on the belly, reading stories, or whatever interests her. If everyone did this, the pinches would go quickly replaced by a sweet little girl.
2006-12-25 12:11:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, talk to your parents and see what they want you to do. Another way to handle it is to kind of yell OW! That hurt! Please don't pinch me, so an adult hears you. Or tell her up front when she gets there that she cannot pinch you or you will pinch back. At 5 she is more than old enough to understand this is not acceptable. But if none of this works, I would nicely talk to her parents, and just say " ...just pinched me and she kind of does that whenever...(say when it happens...when she doesn't get her way, etc) and it really hurts. What do you think is the best way for me to handle it?"
Good Luck and Merry Christmas
2006-12-24 23:48:58 · answer #3 · answered by micheletmoore 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should not have to be abused by your 5 yr old cousin.
Tell your parents and her's (while your cousin is standing there listening) that you do not want to be pinched anymore and what do they suggest you do when she does pinch you.
Hopefully this will be enough for your cousin to think twice before pinching.
Good luck
2006-12-25 01:48:30 · answer #4 · answered by Cassiopeia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to your parents and ask them what you should do, if that doesn't work when she pinches you walk away from her , keep away from her until she can stop. 5 is old enough to know better. are you the only one she pinches? if not, get all the kids together(I'm assuming you aren't the only 2 kids in the family) and play together but ignore her until she can be nice
2006-12-25 11:43:27 · answer #5 · answered by Olivia's Mama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 is old enough to know better. Tell her to stop and if she doesn't tell her in a LOUD voice right in her face "I told you to stop pinching me". If the parents do nothing and she does it again pinch her back. if you get in trouble explain you have told her twice and no one did anything and you thought this may make her stop. If you get sent to your room at least you will be away from her and they might do something about her behaviour
2006-12-25 04:17:46 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her parents. It doesn't matter if you are 14, she is pinching and obviously hurting you otherwise you wouldn't be complaining. Don't whine but be articulate and explain that she is pinching and has actually hurt you.
2006-12-25 17:09:23 · answer #7 · answered by cynical 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her santa is watching and going to throw away her present at the last minute!
2006-12-24 23:33:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHY can't you tell on her? You are 14. You have responsibilities. Tell!
2006-12-24 23:17:41 · answer #9 · answered by woundbyte 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your cousin feels like you don't like her. so try to talk to her and not get mad at her that much.
2006-12-25 16:23:37 · answer #10 · answered by pink cutie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋