so me and this guy have been dating for about a month now, and i think that he is great... the best guy ever... like im not used to being treated so good... and i finnaly feel the same way about a guy as he feels about me (for the first time) we are both crazy about eachother... but one problem... he's my boss... he is 5yrs older than me (not a big deal) but it's against policy to date him so we keep it quiet, only his friend who is also a manager knows and one other person who happend to see us on a date... but im going to be getting a new job hopefully soon, but im going crazy... he is treating me like im nothing at work (this was never like this) but when off work im his queen... but he tends to give me the silent treat ment at work, flirts with my co-workers (who he KNOWS like's him)... and his old "best friend" form child hood is back in town and he has not seen HER in 5years and he spends his breaks at work talking to her on the phone... this is starting to hurt me...what u think
2006-12-24 15:09:10 · 6 answers · asked by sierrajones37 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hmmm... well, I think it's great that you feel mutally attracted to each other. Him being 5 years older isn't really a big deal...'course it depends on how old you are (for example, if you're under 18 it's a VERY big deal). He may be ignoring you at work to try to conceal the relationship, but the flirting with other employees is going a bit over the top, especially if there are people at work who already know about the two of you. I wouldn't worry too much about his best friend. I have a few guys that I was really good friends with until I got married so don't take that too seriously. If you're suspicious about it, ask him. Talk to him about how the flirting and the silent treatment is hurting you. If you get this new job, that could be good for this relationship.
2006-12-24 15:17:28 · answer #1 · answered by artsycasey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is doing all that you said, then you must LOOK at what IS.
He is treating you just like a Fling, someone to have fun with (and noo doubt in my mind, that he is doing so with others.)
Put higher worth on yourself , for gosh sakes.
Love yourself enough to leave this fella behind and go with someone who is going to LOVE YOU.
For fear is NEVER love, and if he is too afraid to let others know your together, then he does not love you.
move on, and LIVE. please trust me.
you get one chance in life to live, as who you are now, and you dont want to reach the end and look back and think how unhappy you were.
2006-12-24 15:17:33 · answer #2 · answered by stuart_slider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me like he's either too scared to let it show in front of others or too stupid to see what he's got goin' for him. I'd say you might try doing the same to him and see how he likes it, like give him the silent treatment at work and play the field a little yourself. Maybe he'll realize how it feels and get the hint.
2006-12-24 15:13:28 · answer #3 · answered by MC Wild Joker 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, like you said, it is against policy to date a co-worker. Looks to me like he's trying REALLY hard to hide your relationship.
2006-12-24 15:11:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think he is truely flirting a little because he can, but you hafta understand if you wanna keep it on the DL then you hafta suffer a little. talk to him though i understand why it hurts.
2006-12-24 15:11:49 · answer #5 · answered by SHANNON. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to explain to him how you feel about the situation coz not only is he hurtin your feelings he is hurting you
2006-12-24 15:12:20 · answer #6 · answered by Chavo Baby!!!!!! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋