We are coworkers and I gave her a nice compliment saying I enjoy being around her. She said "that's so sweet." So as I left she went and asked one of my coworker friends if I had a cursh on her. My friend said yes. She said well I think he's cute. My friend told me she thinks i'm cute so I went and told her that I have a crush on her. She said "that's so sweet. She gave me a hug and after we hug I told her I would of told her sooner, but she you have a boyfriend. She didn't say anything about that really. So the next day she starts to flirt a lilttle. I didn't flirt back because she has a boyfriend.I gave this girl this letter well here's what it said When we first talk and after the conversation was over I started to like you. So everytime when you talk to me I get butterflies and feel tigly inside. Also when we make eye contact I get nervous. That's why you see me not making too much eye contact with you. I enjoy your company. I still have a crush on you.When you told me you might get another job I was sad. You're such a sweet,kind, and caring person. Your very pretty.You have such a beautiful smile and it makes me smile too. You have pretty blue eyes. I can't stop thinking about you. Your always on my mind. If you don't like me the way I like you. I'll understand and we can just be friends.
I gave it to her yesterday and I saw her today and she didn't say anything about it. I didn't asked her about it. I was kinda down today and really didn't feel like talking. Anyways I didn't tease her back or flirt with her back because she has a boyfriend. I played it cool and kinda ignore her I just wasn't in the mood to talk. And she knew that. Anyways she thought I lost interest in her so she said "You don't like me anymore" and walk away fast and look back at me and smile at me. She knows I still like her, but she has a boyfriend. We are co-workers and her boyfriend makes her come into work crying sometimes. I don't know why she stays with him, but she does. Anyways she didn't say anything about the letter still. She show all her co-worker friends the letter and told them I like her. She never told them that she likes me. Sometimes she flirts with me. I didn't flirt back I played it cool. Today I gave her a christmas present. It was a glass angel. Well she like it, but she didn't want it because her boyfriend would be so mad at her for accepting it. She didn't give it back to me, she left it in the front office and told the manager about the situation. She told him that I like her and treat her different than other girl employees. And she also said to him that she just wants to be friends with me. So did I screw up? I thought she like me. I don't know, i'm sad right now. Any advice?
2006-12-24 14:55:39 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems as if though she does like you however she is confused. Like you said maybe her bf makes her cry however when feelings are involved it is hard to just go with someone else. maybe she thinks your nice and if she didnt have a bf she would talk to you. i think overall she just doesnt want any problems so she is just putting walls up around herself. its not your fault you did nothing wrong.
2006-12-24 15:03:35 · answer #1 · answered by Im Bored 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just play it cool from now on. It is better not to get involved with the people we work with because it can make for an awkward situation as you probably already realize. What you did was fine and under different circumstances it may have lead to a relationship but she has made it clear now that she is not interested in you. In the future she may but you need to look for a girlfriend outside of work. Don't be sad, you tried and you never lose by at least doing that. Good luck and enjoy your holidays.
2006-12-24 15:00:51 · answer #2 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that the letter might have pushed you overboard. Plus, she was flirting with you too. It's not all your fault and I would explain that to your boss if you get in trouble. She just sounds like a tease, because she was playing you all along. You poured your heart out to her and she dismissed you. I am so sorry. It is really a bad idea to mix work and relationships. Technically you could get fired for sexual harassment if she pushes the issue. I would just leave her be and hope that you retain your job. Next time, just be cool. Don't over extend yourself. If you know that one has a boyfriend, leave her alone or just casually flirt. I am sorry your heart was crushed.
2006-12-24 15:09:00 · answer #3 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't hit on another guy's girl!
It's ok to tell her you think she's wonderful. But leave it at that.
Remain friends and cherish her friendship and her smiles but don't give her any more presents or letters. They will only make her life difficult and if you feel like you do about her you knoew you don't want to do that.
If you complimenting her and smilling at her makes her happy, do it but don't ask her out.
Another will come your way one day and help to alleviate the pain.
2006-12-24 15:16:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i read every word...and i'm so freaking confused. If you knew she had a boyfriend you should have kept your feelings to yourself. All i see happening is her cheating on her bf with you. Nothing good is going to come out of this if she's still with him. Also this girl seems to be playing games with you. Maybe you should leave her alone for awhile. Don't be sad.
2006-12-24 15:01:13 · answer #5 · answered by xxdelicious_l1psxx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 23:16:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did u write a letter to her in the first place
u should have spoken to her on the face that would have got u an instant response
see now u dont have a answer from her do u ?
to seek further guidance mail me
2006-12-24 15:00:58 · answer #7 · answered by shaikh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never date co workers...it just causes drama. you shouldnt have given her the letter, you should have told her in person, what are you in 6th grade? maybe that letter was too much for her. i would have ran away far if i read that letter...you sound too obessive. take it easy the next week or so. act like you dont like her in that way, it drives girls crazy.
2006-12-24 15:09:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
all said and done she has a boy friend, and I do not think you can expect any more from her . it is up to you if you keep on hoping, but there are so many women that would be happy to have you you just need to put your self out there
2006-12-24 15:02:15 · answer #9 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
find a new job..never date your co workers,,,she seems immature telling others about you. Sorry but dont move so fast next time.You could get fired for sexual harassment
2006-12-24 15:00:14 · answer #10 · answered by heartzz_ablaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋