I have a 9 month old daughter. I have got her in the routine of sleeping with us. How do I get her to sleep .?

Question

She screams if we try to put her to bed in her crib. She wont stop. We let her cry for an hour. Checking on her of course. Please help

Answer 1

I would suggest initially starting by transfering her to her crib after she falls asleep so that she gets used to waking up in her crib. Inevitably there will be the wake-ups where she will get distressed, but eventually she'll become used to the 'environment' of her crib.

You didn't mention how/where she takes her naps? If those are in her crib then maybe you can tell her she's just going to take a 'nap' so that she will go more quietly to her crib?

In time, you can start putting her in her crib to 'play' so that gets used to being in her crib while awake. Then work towards putting her in her crib when it's time for bed.

I wish you luck in this transition!

Answer 2

We've gone through this several times with our children! Funny how you do this for survival (ie to get some sleep) and then it backfires on you when they keep you from sleeping!

Before you try to put her to bed, make sure she is sleepy. If you just played with her and had her laughing, she will need some time to wind down. Place her in her bed, awake, and walk out and pull the door almost all the way closed behind you. I personally don't let more than 20-30 minutes go by without checking on them. If she's still crying, go in, DON'T talk to her, change her diaper if needed and then walk out.

Keep doing this until she falls alseep. It might take a week before it works, but the end result will be both of you getting a good night sleep!

Answer 3

I'm not sure where you have the crib, but maybe you can try moving her out in baby steps. What if you put the crib right next to the bed? Then after she gets used to that, move it farther away from the bed. Then move it to her room.

Also, I know it's hard to hear your baby crying, but if you pick that method you have to stick to it. Otherwise, if you give up after an hour, next time she'll scream 1.5 hours. Good luck with whatever you go with!

Answer 4

You can do this with out meds... put her in her crib, say nite nite and on the first nite sit where she can see you in front of her crib(but don't say anything and don't look @ her) if she stands or sits up just go and lay her down cover her up(keep doing that till she falls asleep)... the 2nd night do the same but maybe sit 1/2 way to the door... on the 3rd night sit just outside the door but let her see you, hopefully by this night she will quicker than the last 2 nights, it worked for my daughter and it just takes time... try soothing music and possibly a nite light...

Answer 5

Whatever anyone tells you, do not give her medecine to make her sleepy! That would be terrible. Anyways, the perdicament you are in is very common so don't feel like you are bad :-D. I think the best thing to do is spend alot of time with her in her room like an hour or two before you put her to sleep. Then, once you put her in her crib, try putting on nice soft music and giving her warm milk. A magnificent trick when putting kids to sleep is stroking them at the center of their eyebrows, liks usually where there is no hair unless there is a unibrow. This works so great because the child will be watching you stroke them, therefore crossing their eyes (dont worry, this wont make them cross eyed, just dont do it for too long) and they get their eyes tired so they want to close them. I promise you eventually this will work! Good luck!!!!

Answer 6

Thats a hard one... some would say just put her in her room, and let her cry...for as long as it takes-- but as a mom, its VERY hard. There are other tecniques like putting a baby bed in your room, next to your bed for a lil while, so shes IN your room but Not in your bed, and then slowly transition her farther from the bed..and room..until shes in her own bedroom... or , harder on your marrage.. put a twin bed in her room..and sleep in there for a while.. or start a routine of putting her in her bedroom-bathtime, reading, sing, whisper, nightlight, teddybear, goodnight....there is really no sure fire easy way now that she has really gotten into the whole safety with mom routine, but the earlier you try, the easier it gets...usually toddlers do well when you transition from the crib to toddler bed...but yours is still pretty small.. so id say you stll have a goood chance of getting it done, and keeping it that way.. its all about routine and consistancy. Goodluck!!

Answer 7

Let her sleep in her crib. She needs to learn to sleep on her own. Your doing nothing for her by letting her sleep with you. This should have been done when she was 3-5 months old. To keep your sanity, you should put her in the crib and not turn the baby monitor on so loud...sometimes it's what needs to be done. Or else she will be 5 and still in your bed. As long as you know she is not bleeding, the crying is only because she wants you there.

Answer 8

This is going to sound really crazy but my gandma taught me this!!! Get a large laundry basket and lay her to sleep in bed, in the basket with you when she falls asleep after she gets used to that, move the laundry basket to her crib after a while you will be able to take that laundry basket away and she will feel more comfortable about her surroundings. GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 9

My daughter is also 9 months old. She refuses to sleep in her cot and prefers our company. :)

I moved her cot into our son's room (he's 2 1/2 years old) a week ago. I thought since they'll be sharing a room until they get older, he better get used to her crying and she better get used to him yelling at her.

Crying time varies from 10 mins to an hour and a half. Depends on how tired she is.

I don't even go in to comfort her anymore as she just crys harder.

Sometimes my son yells at her to stop crying. He even sings to her and we've even heard them laughing and playing together over the baby monitor.

You just have to stick with it. I know it's hard hearing them cry, but they eventually have to learn how to settle and go to sleep by themselves.

Make sure you have her in a routine of eat, play and sleep.

Answer 10

I tried to get my son to sleep alone. He cried and I felt like it was mean. I'm just going to keep my son (14 months now) in bed with us until he can sleep in a toddler bed in about a month or so. Maybe changing like that works for some people, but I feel like our son is happier where he is.