My bf an I broke up abt a month ago, we argued to much, everytime we try to work it out its like he changes his mind then we argue. he tells me he loves me, we were suppose to get engaged, I love him alot. We are goin to try once more to work things out, by me not coming up to his job 4 awhile, and we're not to argue for awhile. I am willing to sacrfice, an work on my temper with anger mangament. Im just hurting so much now, b/c I was pregant an it was in my tubes so I had no choice but to get rid of it, Im so depressed, an it hurts so much, but sometime I feel he doesnt care. one minute he says yeah lets work it out then he says lets go our seperate ways, an now its like he'll think abt it. Im already depressed abt the baby being gone. Then he also says he'll call me, that will be apart of us working it out, should I go with that plan an if we start to get along go from there? Im in so much confusion. I wanted to the keep the baby, put it was in my tubes. I hate myself, no 1 cares
2006-12-24 14:41:45 · 18 answers · asked by snowprincess20010 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its a sin but I had no choice the Doctor said. He didnt want to talk to me 2day, he rushed me off the phone, an even told his parents dont answer the phone it me. I asked why, he said because he was mad. My mom found out , I catching hell, an he acts like he hates me
2006-12-24 14:44:03 · update #1
Please help, what should I do, iwant to make things better between him an I. I belive it would help my depression
2006-12-24 14:45:08 · update #2
lets start off with this losing the baby was a horrible situtation that was out of your control and you should not be beating yourself up over that. once you accpet that your anger and depression should decrease some. with your boyfriend or ex boyfriend let him be he looks like he is playing with. he doesnt know what he wants. right now the state you are in that is only making you worse.
2006-12-24 14:55:40 · answer #1 · answered by OB the Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are on an emotional roller coaster right now...take a break!! from him...
Heal your body ,then your heart ,then your mind.
He does not care about you, baby or not!
You should not sleep w/ a man who is not willing to marry you! Start the New Year w/o him. Start today by forgetting him!! Listen, when a parent also enables their son to avoid responsibility you don't need them in your life!!]
Pick up the pieces & and move on.Right now Tonight!!
2006-12-24 22:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by Mee-OW =^..^= 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw no matter what your going to hurt. You need to take sometime for your self. Do something that you love. Block out the people that are hurting you more. Surround yourself with the people that are showing you love and helping you through. It seems like this guy isn't helping you sweetie, tell him to leave you alone if he's not willing to help you through. You can do so much better.
2006-12-24 22:50:27 · answer #3 · answered by xxdelicious_l1psxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depression over a miscarriage (I'm not sure if that's what it's considered, in your case), is a hard thing to get over. It'll take time. Maybe he's also upset about that.
In all truth though, do not think about engagement or marriage (or having a child), until you are able to work on your relationship, and determine if it's able to last or not. At this point, it's not.
2006-12-24 22:45:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy is a bum. And a Jerk. Put on your finest and find a new fella. And avoid the dangerous looking edgy 'bad boys'. Theyre not very nice at all. If this was his good face for the courtship period...how would he act once he got the ring on your finger? Worse, thats how.
2006-12-24 22:49:51 · answer #5 · answered by vaughndhume 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should get help,,,i know i have depression,,getting back togther is just a band aid, You need to get stronger,,no relationship will work if not. im sorry for your loss of the baby,,,but sounds like he is dealing with his own problems...stay strong,,work on your issue that way if you do get back together down the line it wil make things better,,or even if you are with someone else..if and when you do have kids you need to be strong mentally. Good luck,
2006-12-24 22:51:32 · answer #6 · answered by heartzz_ablaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say that nobody cares. I care. I think you should move on and leave him alone even if he tries to go back to you. You deserve better treatment, and it doesn't sound like he has a good reason for not giving it to you. Good luck with the next one!
Almost forgot . . . Merry Christmas!
2006-12-24 22:46:06 · answer #7 · answered by anonymous 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well for starters iknow you love him and it wll be hard however i also know that trying again and again is just going to hur you in the process, tell him you know what yes you can think about it but i am going to find someone else who is not unsure of themselves and for your sake i dont think you did the wrong thing about the baby. you did what you had to do dont let others tell you differnt it is what you think is right now anyone else
2006-12-24 22:47:28 · answer #8 · answered by sororitychick_112 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you just lost a pregnancy,you need a break ,from him your mom and negativety in general,don't call him ,avoid his calls go on a mental vacation,tell him you need some space.imagine how lucky you are that he didn't get a chance to treat you like this while you carried a baby for nine months.
2006-12-24 22:52:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has a lot of growing up to do, and you are taking all the blame here..Yes you have went through a dramatic experience, I think it would be better to stay from him a while and try to digest all that has happened...This chap may not be what the dr. ordered...good luck...
2006-12-24 22:50:18 · answer #10 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋