I am very sad, not even Christmas makes me happy enogh... I dated this guy on my vacations (he lives at the US and I don't) but every summer I go there. Ok the thing is that this guy gave me my first kiss, he showed me a lot (i'm still a virgin 4 the record) , he made me feel so many good things, he is like so perfect: funny, outgoing, sexy/cute, makes me laugh, smells SOOO good, he treats me like a princess, etc. The thing is that I can't forget him, I feel so sad, and so alone. We still talk twice a week. But a few friends told me that I had to be realistic, and that it may not be possible for us to get back together. (I'm going next year again, and I'll be staying for years). So we could pick up were we left off. But I don't want it to hurt so bad if it doesn't happen, besides it already does because of the distance...
Help me please.... HOW TO GIVE UP HOPE? HOW TO CURE MYSELF FROM LOVE?
in your opinion DO U THINK IT'SPOSSIBLE FOR US TO PICK UP WHERE WE LEFT NEXT YEAR OR NOT?
2006-12-24 14:23:40 · 6 answers · asked by Latina Hottie! W.Chocolate 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know he ain't perfect... I do see his flaws, that's what makes me love him even more...
2006-12-24 14:32:45 · update #1
while you're away, turn your relationship into friendship. When you come back you'll be able to pick that right up. then it will turn into the romantic relationship you're looking for. Besides it won't hurt as much if you become friends now. good luck honey.
2006-12-24 14:28:01 · answer #1 · answered by phe_03 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The problem is that you're living in a fantasy world of magic and fairy dust because you aren't seeing this man on a regular basis.
In other words, you only see his good side without seeing any flaws- and everyone in the world has flaws.
If you really want to get over him, start meeting other men. Go to parties and clubs, and drink a ton. Go home with a bunch of dudes, and see how things turn out. Get a more realistic view on the world and how the two genders interact, and after a year see if you still really care about this dude.
If so, see if he'll marry you so you can move to america and live together!
2006-12-24 14:29:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he seeing anyone now? My friend was in a similar situation, she met a guy on vacation and cared about him a lot but since she only knew how he was away it was great b/c they didn't see each other all the time and people tend to be so happy in the summer and on vacations. She found out that later he wasn't that great when he was home, it was like he was a different person. Talk and become friends really get to know who he is and vice versa. When you meet again and you really see how he is in person for a long period of time then you can both decide if its worth trying but who knows he may not be what you expected. Talking over emails and interacting in person for a long time is completely different. You'll have the opportunity to see the real him.
2006-12-24 14:46:28 · answer #3 · answered by pj26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is pretty much exactly what I'm going through (except both me and my ex live 2 minutes away from each other at school.) We dated for 2 years in high school and a year and a half in college (on and off) and now it's officially over. I was really upset at first, but now I feel much more comfortable knowing that I can take this time to get to know ME and not the me that was with him. (I hope that made sense.) Right now, I can't think about being with anyone else BUT him, but I also know that he was my first love and I'm never going to know what I really want unless I try new people, new experiences, on my own. As for you and your guy, I can't give you my opinion because everyone is different. I just think that if you take it one day at a time, and be happy with YOURSELF, everything will work out for the best.
I hope this helped..good luck! :)
2006-12-24 14:28:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe you need to rethink this whole thing over about the long distance love. Date others no kissing or anything just hang out with guys in a group of girlfriends. Because it sounds like you have lust in your heart not true love. Try to ask him to move there. Will the feelings you express for him actually be return to you? If not its your first, doesn't mean it's great love.
2006-12-24 14:35:58 · answer #5 · answered by memjabeana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't give up hope, next year when you go there marry him and live happily ever after.
2006-12-24 14:37:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋