i went out friday nite wit my 2 friends and my girl stayed home, (we are all friends even wit my ex). me and my 2 friends saw my ex girl there and she was with her girl. through out the nite she kept trying to get wit me and kiss me, remind you her girl is there in tha club and my girl is at home and my 2 friends are watching this, i keep tellin her no, stop, im wit my girl. but she dont care so she keeps going all nite. now my question is if you were one of my 2 friends that went wit me and saw all that, would you tell my girl the next day after we agreed on not mentioning it to her, so we wont cause drama or would you have told her???
2006-12-24 14:09:17 · 20 answers · asked by Lissett p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You shouldn't have agreed to do that, because what if one of your friends slips and says something anyway? you should have told your girl yourself. You did nothing wrong. If your feeling guilty maybe you still have feelings for your ex.
2006-12-24 14:13:06 · answer #1 · answered by phe_03 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It would cause more heartahe and embarrassment if you are not honest. Normally, if your 2 buddies wouldn't want to create problems for you ( men usually shut 1 eye) they will not tell on you.
As a woman, i feel that this is unfair to your girl staying at home when you ex is all over you, At least i need to know that you are honest to tell me what exactly happen and not wait until something blows up and misunderstood you then.
2006-12-24 22:21:28 · answer #2 · answered by Yoo Hoo! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex shouldn't have been all over you. I would have removed myself from the situation so the drama wouldn't have gone down. If you would have left the club, or where ever you may be, and your friends would have kept their words(Perfect world) it wouldn't have been bad. I would tell your ex to back off, because you got you own and she has her own. I would tell your girl whats up and tell her thats why your with her(the better girl) instead of your ex.
2006-12-24 22:15:40 · answer #3 · answered by jojot001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be much better for you to tell her as opposed to her hearing it through the grapevine. If you dont tell her and she finds out anyways she will think that you didnt tell her because something happened between you two or that you are still seeing her. Just let her know so that you keep the drama on low
2006-12-24 22:12:45 · answer #4 · answered by Chrissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, since your behavior was positive - you refused her advances and stayed true to your relationship - there is no overwhelming reason to have it mentioned unless you think the 'drama' will end up coming from the ex either to your or, worse case scenario, from your ex to your girl. In that case, it would be more respectful to your girl for the info to come from you rather than from your ex - the sooner the better.
2006-12-24 22:12:37 · answer #5 · answered by Lucy_Fur 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better to tell her the truth and say what really happened. She will appreciate you more because she knows you are true and faithful. Honesty is the best policy. Be transparent and show her what your true motives are. God Bless You!!!
2006-12-24 22:16:26 · answer #6 · answered by Mari 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To tell you the truth. I would tell. I mean you didnt really do anything but like i think that they would need to know about the girl.
2006-12-24 22:12:09 · answer #7 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never known a woman that can keep a secret. Start working on your story now. Make it a good one and stick to it.
2006-12-24 22:12:50 · answer #8 · answered by Dane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell her because you could have gone home when she was bugging you but you did not so you are playing the Field and that is dangerous ;Sounds like you need to be single for a while.
2006-12-24 22:14:38 · answer #9 · answered by bonnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your girl before she hears it from someone else. Friends arent always friends if you know what I mean.
2006-12-24 22:16:09 · answer #10 · answered by tatersma1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋