I need to clear out my mind (or feelings).
I've met this guy through texting (using cellphones) and we already met formally. Uhm... we already dated twice and ever since, he's always been in my mind from the time I wake up 'til I close my eyes (honest!). He already keeps telling me that he really loves me for me. And I think I love him too. Is that possible? We just have known each other for like 3 weeks yet. I know this may sound a little too soon, but we already kissed (and he's my first kiss), and I felt a spark from that kiss actually. I think I'm addicted to him now. He's not good-looking, for sure, but God! He's really caring and understanding, and oh my gosh! I'm in love with his voice especially when we talk on the phone... And his being there for me through ups & downs. He jokes around, but he's serious when he needs to (like when I have problems). He's always willing to listen. He always open his door for me. I just can't stop thinking about him. Do you think I got it bad?
2006-12-24 14:02:08 · 19 answers · asked by Chimchim 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's an islam, and I'm a roman catholic. Does religion matters anyway? Well, I know it matters a lot to my family, but I can't help it. I love him (or am I just convincing myself I am?). I always started a fight with him, sometimes blame or quarrel him for no reason at all. Whenever I get pissed or wake up from the wrong side of the bed, I always quarrel him even though it's not his fault. But he just understands me and won't ever hurt me or fight back. I sometimes push him away, but still he never leaves me. He's always there for me no matter how hard I am or no matter how he's hurt because of what I say to him. But he never cares about it, but he just keeps telling all the way that he'll always be here for me, come what may, because he really loves me and nothing or no one can ever change that. Is he sincere? I don't know. I need to think, but I can't figure things out at all. Oh God! I need help!
2006-12-24 14:07:03 · update #1
Another thing, whenever I'm not in a good mood or whenever I get angry, he knows how to cool me down. Whatever he does, it calms me down. Sometimes when I'm really pissed off, he just jokes around, then I start laughing and got back to my senses. He really knows how to cheer me up. Sometimes, I say I hate him and then stop communicating with him, but after a while, I grab my phone and text him telling him that I'm sorry. And he'll say it's okay. Do you think he's into me? 'Cause I know words can be decieving. But whenever I'm with him physically (like when we dated), he makes me feel warm & special. Sometimes we act as real good friends, and sometimes we act like being more than friends, but to tell you the truth, we never have any commitment yet (yes, he's not my bf and I'm not his gf). What are the possibilities? Or advantages and disadvantages? Should I go on with what I feel? I know I need to take things slowly first & know him much more. I just can't explain things straight.
2006-12-24 14:30:16 · update #2
sounds cute, take it slow though. Love's complicated, i don't think your in it yet. enjoy being around him without thinkin too much. sounds like a cool dude, treat him right cuz (i think) he's bein great to you.
i doubt you guys are i n love yet, some people have been wit each other for DECADES and still don't get it.
**stop fighting and blamin him so much. he's gonna get tired of it. it's not fair to him if you're always nagging him for a dumb reason. it's cool he's a patient guy, but don't walk all over him. he'll realize that patience isn't the right approach with girls and he'll start actin like an asshole.
2006-12-24 14:10:10 · answer #1 · answered by robyoung3484 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
um if you really dont want tobe crushed then i would slow things waaaaaay down. give it a year be fore you decide you are in love. i know you are prolly thinking omg that is way longer than i need. well maybe you are right. but what sounds better? waiting before you give your all and being safe and sound, or giving all youve got and then deciding that it is not forver. b leive me it is possible to wait even more than a year and still decide that you are better off apart. so enjoy it and take it slow. dont forget your friends, and be careful about leaning on him too much. sorry if this isnt what you wanted to hear. but yeah i would say you got it bad. lol
2006-12-24 14:17:37 · answer #2 · answered by summer girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not too fast my parents have been married 16 years now 17 this December 26th. They dated only 4 weeks, I think you should wait longer of course, but it sounds like things are going great.
2006-12-24 14:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by Equestrian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're in love with the thought of being in love. True love takes time to grow. Give yourself time to grow as well, and you'll be a better person for it. Remember, every girl has to kiss her share of frogs before she finds her prince.
2006-12-24 14:07:03 · answer #4 · answered by haysncgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG no this isn't bad it's just love at first sight or someth'n close to this. Aww.. i think this cute. but if u too break up wow...ur gonna have one OD heart ache. Hopefully everything will go good for u two and who knows maybe u found ur soulmate! it happens a lot trust me.
2006-12-24 14:10:44 · answer #5 · answered by Nigh+mare 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in love with being in love--not with a guy you've known for three weeks. Sorry. You will feel like that for dozens of guys in your life sweetie.
2006-12-24 14:05:21 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Curious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not "Love"....it is a simple teenage infatuation. Don't become "addictied"......a very bad thing to be. Calm down and back off....there is more to life that a little boy!
2006-12-24 14:05:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen up, i am feeling you... if you know you love him, then you wouldn't care about his looks, or the way he dresses.. etc...!! which- you don't apparently. you arent going to quickly. just a kiss is OK... wait longer to take your relationship further. you know you love him and he feels the same way about you. there's nothing to worry about. really, trust me. good luck and i really hope that everything works out. have faith and love HIM for who he is just as he loves you for who YOU are!! you for sure don't have it bad. you are so incredibly lucky that you already found someone to love so deeply and truly. good luck with everything.
2006-12-24 14:09:20 · answer #8 · answered by vovo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you have it good! The whole world is jealous of young people in love, even other young people in love are jealous of you. Please make a serious effort to enjoy these days, they might be the most wonderful of your life.
2006-12-24 14:05:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol hun, its great you found a guy like that! i know i have one and he makes me happy every day! and if you do "have it bad" as you put it then its a good thing. yes you like him quite a bit and im thrilled for you! i'd go with this if i were you becuase it's just good if he makes you happy.
2006-12-24 14:07:29 · answer #10 · answered by rachi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋