ok, 10 days ago my bf broke up with me, i actually have been feeling very sad forthe loss of him and also because i feel guilty that it didnt work out, i think i demanded too much and dindt give much myself. anyway today (xmas day in OZ) i sent him an sms wishing him a merry xmas and he replied asking how i wasdoing, i asked him if he wanted to talk on the phone and he called me, we were talking normally but then i started to say that i miss him and that i would tryto make it btter if he came back, that we could negotiate thing so we are both happy, he says he needs to think about it, i asked him to see him so we are going out tomorrow for lunch, i also asked him if he doenst have any feeling for me anymore, he said" i never said that, no". so i dont know, i will go tomorrow definitely but i dont want to create my self great expectations, what do you think?
2006-12-24 13:48:21 · 10 answers · asked by saminita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think he was pushed into a corner and got out. If you push again, he's history. A relationship is a 2 way street and if you set your expectations too high (that is, for something he can't or won't give now) you will lose.
2006-12-24 13:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by snddupree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you go, don't expect to settle it at lunch. Ask him to honestly tell you what went wrong. You have speculated but now you need to hear, in his words, what caused the breakup. Maybe you will benefit from it. You may be able to talk things out and eventually get back together. But listen carefully to what he says... if there's something about you that he can't deal with, and you won't/can't change... then you guys need to move on.
2006-12-24 13:56:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sort of feels to me which you're nonetheless attracted on your ex... even extra suitable than you have an interest on your contemporary boyfriend. i don't know the situations of why you broke it off which comprise your ex yet i'm guessing that he's the single that broke it off with you. if this is so then i could additionally say that his meddling on your courting which comprise your contemporary boyfriend is extra a count of him relaxing his ego and understanding that he nonetheless has administration over you than this is he's interested in getting decrease back which comprise you. My suggestion? forget approximately your ex. And, at the same time as you're at it, take a extreme look at your courting which comprise your contemporary boyfriend. while you're nonetheless having techniques approximately being which comprise your ex (lots so as which you probably did 'carry out a little stuff') then are you quite being honest on your contemporary boyfriend? Are you being honest to your self? perhaps you at the instant are not finished dealing which comprise your thoughts in the direction of your ex. in the previous you progression directly to a clean courting you're able to desire to return to a determination the previous ones first.
2016-11-23 15:59:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then dont expect too much...Meet him for a lunch, be very nice to him and tell him that you are very sorry, you love him and you want him back. Everything inside your mind. Then its depends on him. If he doesnt want to comeback too you, let him go and move on.
If he want to give it another shoot, be a better gf for him in the future
2006-12-24 14:11:09 · answer #4 · answered by AlisonJonshon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So it was your idea to talk on the phone, and was it your idea to go to lunch, too? Sounds like you are pushing again probably the same way you pushed too hard in the relationship. This one is over - let it go.
2006-12-24 13:58:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already have great expectations! It sounds as if he is trying to put some time and space between you guys. It also sound like you are smothering him. No one wants a clingy, helpless, pushover who only wants to please as a girlfriend. Its boring. You are just as important as he is. Why do you have to be the one to do all the pleasing and begging and calling and making up......get a grip!
2006-12-24 13:56:50 · answer #6 · answered by Adrienne C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him and go on. He should atleast try 50% to get back to you. If he doesn't, write him off. Play slightly hard to get, and see if he cares to come back.
2006-12-24 13:56:03 · answer #7 · answered by thewiseone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are headed down the wrong track at warp speed. Think with your head as well as your heart.
2006-12-24 14:00:23 · answer #8 · answered by opjames 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt wait on him. dont try to tailor yourself to make him happy.
2006-12-24 13:51:24 · answer #9 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just move on and end the games........its just drama
2006-12-24 13:51:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋