I started seeing this cop two months ago. He was wonderful to me and promised me the world. I know women are always throwing themselves at him because he is good looking and charming(plus a cop). He's hurt me lately by hiding something important from me and not keeping in touch and keeping distant. I thought he was different from other guys. He said in the hallway at work 'sorry about this mess',then when we got in the car with two other people he started explaining what was going on with his family problems,so why didnt he come and speak to me about this?
2006-12-24 13:19:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe because he was ashamed of it, and he probably thought you would leave him if you knew.. but apparently he just couldnt hold it in anymore.
2006-12-24 13:23:04 · answer #1 · answered by ryanisalifestyle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cops are a different breed of men... They have very tough jobs, that can really mangle them mentally and emotionally, and they see things that are best not seen.
Adding family problems into it makes life exponentially more difficult for them.
And as a man - we don't like to share our problems, particularly with a woman. To do so implies weakness on the mans part, and we have a problem with that in general. For a cop its even worse.
Men want to be seen as the invincible providers for our women. We want to seem strong at all times.... its just how we are.
That is probably why he didn't bring it up with you... he must want you, and he must want you to want him... and he's afraid that if he seems weak, he might lose you.
Try talking with him, maybe in bed, tell him how you feel about him, and ask him to share with you. You'll probably need to do some ego stroking (and maybe some actual stroking)... but if you handle his answers calmly and lovingly, he might open up to you...
I wish both of you all the best.
-dh
2006-12-24 21:28:16 · answer #2 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you confusing the issue. Him being a cop has nothing to do with him being a jerk. He would be acting the same way if he was a banker, lawyer or plumber. Maybe he does not feel comfortable enough with you to pour out his heart to you. Just because he is a cop doesn't make him a lier.
2006-12-24 21:22:44 · answer #3 · answered by Sally B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humans can be jerks not just cops some people like to work out problems alone because they think that they R burdening other by giving them they sad story
2006-12-24 21:25:47 · answer #4 · answered by Richard e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People that are attracted to this type of work (being a cop) want power over people and tend to be abusive types of people. Cops have one of the highest domestic abuse rates of any occupation. You would be wise to steer clear of him or any other cops.
2006-12-24 21:40:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he is a cop and that he won't talk to you about stuff doesn't mean that all cops are lying jerks. Maybe he just doesn;t feel comfortable discussing private stuff with u yet...you;ve only been dating for 2 months. I say wise up and talk to him about this crap instead of calling him a lying jerk behind his back.
2006-12-24 21:26:09 · answer #6 · answered by Meagan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe he's not the trusting right away type.
maybe he's been hurt. he is a cop.. family problems and business problems tend to get in the way
2006-12-24 21:24:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he a married man,if he is then you deserve what your getting.Sorry but you home wreckers hurt a lot of people.If a man is married and still living in the same house but tells you he is only there because of the kids.How can anyone be that stupid to believe a story like that.
2006-12-24 21:33:28 · answer #8 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Maybe because your only dating 2 month and he is not ready to talk about his family infront of you_
2006-12-24 21:22:18 · answer #9 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go to www.copwatch.com to see the truth.
2006-12-24 21:22:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋