How do I toast the brides parents without embarrassing her deadbeat dad who will be present at the wedding?
Should he be the one to walk her down the ailse?
2006-12-24 12:47:06 · 13 answers · asked by Ellen B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The bride decides who will walk her down the aisle. It's not traditional to toast the brides parents (unless you are a parent of the groom). It is, rather, traditional to offer a toast to the happy couple.
2006-12-24 12:49:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest trying to be as cordial as you can while making the toast. You don't want to ruin the event. After all, it is the bride's day. Just thank them for making a beautiful daughter and for being a part of their daughter's life (even though you know the dad was a deadbeat). Wedding etiquette calls for the father to walk the bride down the aisle. However, I think it's really up to the bride. If she wants someone else to walk her down I'd think she reserves the right to choose whoever she wants. Again, it's her day. I know you're probably a close friend or relative, but just by being there and showing your support is the best you can do. Try not to focus on the side issues, instead just reveling in her happiness and how she wants the day to go. Good luck!
2006-12-24 12:52:24 · answer #2 · answered by gabound75 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the bride and grooms day so I think you just have to be courteous. You don't have to by fake and say how wonderful he is. If the bride invited the father and asked you to do the toast even though you know the truth about the deadbeat dad, she probably has confidence that you can come up with something that won't be offfensive to him but include him in their special day. Good Luck!
2006-12-24 12:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by lins0043 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bride, not you, gets to choose the person wo walk her down the aisle.
You can toast her parents as having produced a wonderful person. You don't have to say that he was a deadbeat dad.
Enjoy the wedding.
2006-12-24 12:50:37 · answer #4 · answered by istitch2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay Ellen, if you have to do it, then do it. "Here's a toast to Mom and Dad, the parents of the most wonderful and beautiful bride in the world. Mom has been her support and mentor and we can all see what a great job she has done. Dad was the first man in her life, the one who is responsible for not only bringing her into the world but responsible for bringing her down the aisle today. To a pair of parents, each of whom, in their own sweet way, have helped make this day possible". Or something like that. Good luck.
2006-12-24 12:54:12 · answer #5 · answered by judgebill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Toasting is just a formality. About walking her down the isle, that is up to her. Now it not the time or family fights.
You just might have him do it whether or not he deserves it. He is still her father.
The people at the wedding know him and they know he isn't worthy, but this is his daughter after all. And in a way it symbolizes her breaking away from him.
My daughter has told me that if she gets married she won't have her dad there. And if he is she doesn't want him walking her down the isle. Time will tell about that one.
Sometimes in life we have to choose to be the better person and let that asssssssssssssssholeeee just be.
2006-12-24 21:09:45 · answer #6 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As to whether or not he should be the one to walk her down the aisle, that's up to her and her feelings. A child's love for her parents isn't rational, and she may just be thankful he'll be there. Having her daddy walk her down the aisle is a dream of most daughters.
As to how to toast them, I would keep it plural. Talk about them together, not individually. Talk about the gift of life, the fact that they came together at least for a while to bring this lovely girl into the world, and that all of you are grateful to them for that. Talk about the things of each of them you see in her, and how those traits will serve to help her in her marriage. Also, try talking to the bride about her feelings for her father. What is SHE grateful for? What does SHE love about her dad?
2006-12-24 12:53:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't think that you can handle toasting the bride's parents, let whoever asked know now. As for walking down the aisle, no, he probably shouldn't, but it's not my choice and it's not your choice.
2016-05-23 04:50:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the bride wants you to walk her down the isle let her because she decides. it's not new for someone to make a toast to the happy couple so go for it. the brides happiness comes before her dad's so make sure that the toast makes her happy
2006-12-24 12:51:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not he walks her down the aisle is for her to decide. As far as the toast goes, you can make it more about the girl he sired than about him
2006-12-24 12:54:48 · answer #10 · answered by babydoll 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋