myself and my fiance are going to be merging two established household's so we have all the household item's that are needed. we have more debt then the need for gift's.
2006-12-24 12:19:29 · 26 answers · asked by wardog 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No, you CAN NOT. Gifts are just that...gifts....not expectations, demands or bribery to get good presents in return. Any mention/solicitation of gifts is a rude violation of etiquette. Close friends or family members could mention you preference for gifts of money (just as they can tell folks where you are 'registered' IF THEY ARE ASKED. It is not info to be volunteered. Sorry but you asked!!
2006-12-24 12:59:40 · answer #1 · answered by Mari N 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's not considered polite to ask for gifts of any kind, especially money. If you have debt then consider planning a smaller wedding and cut costs there. Register for gifts at places like Home Depot or other such home improvement type store where you can also register for gift cards. If you get gifts you cannot use, first send a nice thank you note, and then either return the gift to the store, sell it on ebay or donate it to your favorite charity. Only do this if the person who sent it won't be visiting and looking to see how you're using the gift.
2006-12-25 21:21:12 · answer #2 · answered by weddingqueen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always considered in poor taste to ask for money. However, if anyone asks you can tell them that you'd like money. Another thing you can do is set up an account with a travel agency where people can contribute toward the honeymoon instead of gifts you don't need or won't use. You can do the same with a mortgage company for a down payment on a house. Tell people that you are registered there.
2006-12-24 21:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by babydoll 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very tacky to ask for money but, you can. I would also make some gift suggestions because people uncomfortable with giving money will just pick something if there are no ideas for them so, still register somewhere or else you are going to end up with a lot of nothing. Some people dont want you or anyone else to know what there gift to you costs so, that is why they dont want to give money.
2006-12-24 21:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too merged with my house full with my Husbands established household. We included a note with the wedding invitations suggesting to those who desired to give cash/check instead of a gift. About 1/2 of the guests gave money instead of a gift.
We used the cash for our Honeymoon.
2006-12-24 20:46:46 · answer #5 · answered by Monita Marler 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is there anything that you want new? Couch or mattres? Dishes? People like to give gifts maybe ask for visa gift cards...most banks can issue them. That way you can use it on debts and still get a gift.
Make a registry of everyday items, paper plate, tooth paste, razors, shampoo, snacks that you enjoy, plastic bags, storage totes. People spend more money on gift and less on cash gifts...just an FYI.
2006-12-28 15:21:43 · answer #6 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First - never "ask" for anything - a wedding invitation is not supposed to be a request for a gift and so mentioning gifts in anyway on or in the invitation is veyr poor etiquette.
That being said, people like to buy gifts, and like to know what to give so here are a few ways you can let them know without being rude:
Word-Of-Mouth - tell close friends and fmaily, ask them to pass it on
On your Wedding Website
On Bridal Shower Invitations
2006-12-26 18:16:11 · answer #7 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is in horrendous poor taste to ask for any kind of gift from a guest. There is simply no graceful way to do it.
Those who know you will already be aware you have plenty of blenders, and you can hope that they will be more sophisticated than you when (and if) they decide to give you anything.
Hint: lay off the apostrophes, you don't need them for plurals.
2006-12-25 00:56:59 · answer #8 · answered by silvercomet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say it is on the fence of tacky vs. practical.
What about having everyone chip in on a honeymoon? Like a cruise or something?
That way it's still a gift, without tons of household items.
2006-12-24 20:28:51 · answer #9 · answered by sassy_cheesesicle 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That is the new thing to do b/c most cpls live together when they get married and dont want no more junk. I want to put monetary gifts only on my invites but my mother say not to put that its too tacky.
2006-12-25 01:29:25 · answer #10 · answered by sweet_sin78 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋