A 21 year old man was beaten and strangled in his apartment friday morning then fire was set to his apartment.This man was a very close friend of mine for 3 years, i also dated him and was intimate with him for about 2 of them. He was my first love and he is the one who took my virginity. I am home from college for chrisrmas break. I saw him sunday the 18th into monday we were still in love with one another we spent the night together and made love one last time. He was killed friday morning, a few days later. He was also going to be a dad to another frined of mine she is due with his son next week. we have so many memories together i feel frozen, i do not know what to sat do or feel. Ive been doing nothing bt crying the last 2 days, iam physically exhausted from it, ive never lost someone i loved this way we did speak of getting back together someday, anything spoken of will never be. I will never see him again, i feel like im going to die how do i move on? i feel so lost without him.
2006-12-24 12:14:54 · 5 answers · asked by bobbo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am so incredibly sorry for what you are going through. The fact that he has a child on the way means that he will live on...He will also live on through your love of him....There is NOTHING I can say to take away your pain. You will not die from the pain even though it hurts. This man was lucky to have you love him and remember him. You say your friend is pregnant with his child, help her and between you and her you can let the child, in the years to come, know what a great dad they had.
2006-12-24 12:24:52 · answer #1 · answered by ஐAldaஐ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first, you need help. You need counseling. Don't wait until the numbness settles in or you start second guessing yourself. Counseling doesn't mean you're crazy, it just means you are having a hard time doing the healing all alone. i do have experience in this, my aunt was murdered 28 years ago. Her little daughter found her body. I loved my aunt and I miss her to this day. You were intimate with this person, you shared many things and you need to find a proper, healthy way to release your pain. Some may say to brush it all off with a movie with friends or go shopping...I say get help. I do believe time does heal ALL wounds, but time can be slow. Memories help as long as you preserve them with love. He has a baby on the way, if not here already. Help and be there for the baby and his mother. Cherish each other, and cry and laugh together about his memory. But if these feelings continue, I do urge you to get help immediately. My father had to get counseling because it was his baby sister who died and it still affects him to this day. If you do truly still love him, get help and heal yourself. Healing doesn't mean forgetting. You will be honoring him and his memory if he knew you loved him enough to continue living and loving and of course forgiving. You will see him again one day...until then, heal yourself.
2006-12-24 12:47:54 · answer #2 · answered by momofatsc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm truly sorry for your lost. Just pray for his soul to rest in peace and think of all the good memories you two shared together. His time as come so he had to leave. Its painful but in time all your wounds will heal. Life goes on and thank God that you are alive. Good luck and God bless you.
2006-12-24 12:24:23 · answer #3 · answered by julia1975 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-15 07:31:45 · answer #4 · answered by lesniewski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
watch a comical movie.
those always cheer me up.
invite a friend to watch. do
something adventurous to
get your mind of stuff.
2006-12-24 12:21:36 · answer #5 · answered by Amiga2780 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋