Aint nothin goin on but the rent...?

Question

My boyfriend whom Ive been with off/on with since high school is back in my life. He works off and on, I am the sole provider. When we moved I had to pawn all my jewelry to pay the bills. He doesnt cheat, I know because he is ALWAYS home when I am. Although when he does receive money he pays all the bills but when hes not working...I am getting tired of footing the bill...Not to mention we fight all the time and he has put his hands on me a few times. Also, I noticed on his myspace acount all of his female friends are single, he doesnt even check his account in front of me. I never see new messages but you can message privately on that thing. Also he erases the history on the computer when he logs off. I know he hasn't cheated physically simply because all the females are hundreds of miles away, the most I've seen him do was comment on a ladies pic. Am I going overboard or am I right to put a wall up until he shows me 1)he can hold down a job 2)he can be trusted

Answer 1

I can relate to your life, so...even when your mind tells you to run away from the loser ..ups! sorry I mean your boyfriend...your heart stops you from doing so...they are good men but very irresponsible..and because they know we would come to the rescue they relay on us (noted how I speak as they?!) anyway...If you are suspicious of something...that's your sixth sense...listen to it and do what it is best for you. I am sure you want to succeed in life and if there is something or someone who is just holding you back from accomplishing all your dreams...I guess...it's time to move on and leave everything behind you..don't turn back and you'll see that probably could be the best decision you have ever taken! Good Luck!!

Answer 2

Honey for get the trust issue. He needs to show you he can hold a job. Do you want to livein apartments the rest of your life? Wouldn't you like to own a home of your own? have a couple children? Etc.

If this guy can't hold a job do you ever think he will be interested in bettering himself? I mean getting a job is one thing, keeping a job is another thing, but you have ot have a bit of ambition to better your self, to get a better job so you make more for your family and your self. He needs to do a lot more than prove he can hold a job.

Answer 3

he sounds like a loser. ive got one too! get rid of him you can do so much better on your own. and if hes being that secretive about what hes doing chances are there is something going on that he knows that you wouldnt approve of him. dont trust that goldigger. hes living off from you and having a party doing it.

Answer 4

You have been more than fair, more than generous & more than tolerant. Free ride time is over. No one is owed anything. Do what you feel is right; few women would have gone this far, I suspect.

Good Luck!

Peace on Earth,

;-)