I’m 21 and the girl I started seeing is 16, we don’t have a problem with our age difference. But I’m still feeling kinda weird about it. We really like each other and have a lot in common. But I just want to know is it a big deal.
2006-12-24 11:18:52 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People listen He’ll only go to jail if her parents don’t want him seeing her, I don’t know why you guys think he’ll be thrown in jail by F.B.I. or something. If she didn’t like him she would of told somebody by now don’t you think. Besides he says he feels a little uneasy about it, so Leroy you can shut up talking about he’s taking advantage of her youthful innocence. If he didn’t care about her he would have said “I’m still feeling kinda weird about it”. Hey listen if her parents say it’s cool and the both of you are happy then why ruin a good thing.
The only advice I have for you is If she has uptight parents then wait till she’s 18, if her parents are cool with it then hey don’t worry about it be happy.
2006-12-24 11:52:34 · answer #1 · answered by The 2nd shooter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there and done that. It didn't feel like a big deal until a few years later when her childhood was over.
Best bet is to break it off. At a bare minimum, don't get sexual with her. She is not nearly as mature as you and doesn't know half the things about the world that you do. Also, the ramifications can be devastating, since it is probably not legal in your state. I haven't even begun to start on the problems that could be caused by an unwanted pregnancy. Even with protection, it happens.
You are inadvertently taking advantage of her youthful innocence and in effect stealing her youth without knowing it. All of this is arguable, of course, but if you really care about her, why take the chance?
Let her grow up a little more first, enjoy her last years of school, develop her social skills, like dating, and go to the prom with someone her own age.
It's fun, but there is a price to pay and she has much more to lose than you do if she gets pregnant or the relationship goes sour. Be friends, but keep a distance until she graduates from high school.
If that's not enough advice for you, ask her parents if they approve of you seeing her. After all, she is still a minor. You should have their permission to date her.
2006-12-24 11:35:54 · answer #2 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. If both of you really like each other and find no problem with the age difference, then that's your answer. You may feel weird about it now, but once you get to really know the girl you're seeing and find out how great she is, age will really just be a number.
2006-12-24 11:22:13 · answer #3 · answered by ChunkyMonkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me being a mother even thou i have boys not girls i wouldn't let my 16 year old daughter date a 21 year old at that age there is a big age gap now if she was 21 and you was 26 it wouldn't be a problem.My husband is 9 years older then me but i wasn't 16 at the time we got together either.What does her parents say are they ok with it if they are ok then i guess its ok but legally it isnt you could get into trouble
2006-12-24 11:28:09 · answer #4 · answered by Gina S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That iz cool i mean as long as you both love each other love should nt be in the way of the age difference. So just stop talkin about the fact that u cant do different stuff cuz of the age difference. So just stick together
2006-12-24 11:26:08 · answer #5 · answered by Baby Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a big deal at all! My best friends dad is 64 and her mom is 53. 11 year difference! Its no big deal! Alot of people get married to alot older or alot younger people. Age, is just a number
2006-12-24 11:21:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just refrain from getting sexual, and it won't be a big deal. Too much complications can come from having a relationship with a minor, on a sexual basis. If you get in an arguement and/or break up, she can use that sexual relationship against you, and you can be in some legal trouble.
2006-12-24 11:21:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
not really i am seven years older than my boyfriend sometimes i feel a little wierd i do admit but your situation is more common than you think. Age doesn't really matter all that really matters is if you are happy together. Other people's opinions don't really matter eigther. If you are happy together than i wouldn't worry about it.
2006-12-24 11:25:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i really don't think it should be. i' m 16 n have friends who's year difference exceed that like up to 10 years difference and i mean like they say it' s only a number
2006-12-24 11:31:22 · answer #9 · answered by Butterfly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
am a yr older than u r girl..17..and my bf is 26...almost 27..and we're doing just gr8 =)
dont worry bout the age difference...and 5 yrs isnt much anyway
2006-12-24 11:30:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋