I am engaged to be married, but this evening my fiance went to his ex for traditional xmas eve dinner, his kids are in from out of town they are 23 and 25. I'm jewish and I was hoping that he will just pop there for an hour, make an apperance and come home, but it looks like he will stay out there for the whole meal... Should I go out by myself to the local bar, or will I just look pathetic? It's a small town so a lot of people know him, me, his ex... Should I keep a low profile and stay home?
2006-12-24 11:10:58 · 13 answers · asked by artist-oranit.com. 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would be pissed if that happend to me. Hell no don't stay home. Dress really sexy and go out and have a good time. Let him catch you looking good. It is wrong for him to go to see his ex especially without you. Personally I would dump him for it. That is cruel.Staying home would be pathetic. Go out and tell him to shove the engagement up his @ss. because he is being cruel around the holidays and you don't deserve it. Let his ex have him you deserve better. Maybe you should tell him you are having dinner with your ex tonight but not to worry it is just your tradition
2006-12-24 11:18:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard decision, but I would stay home and at least NOT go out to a bar. He is celebrating with his children. I don't feel that you are threatened by the ex. However, I think since you are his fiance he should have extended an invitation for you to join them. Even though you are Jewish, you are a part of his life and you could have attended the dinner. But, since he didn't, give him the time with them and the next day tell him how you feel and ask why didn't he invite you. Now.....I wouldn't let him get away with it again!!!! If he excluded you for any other event, then I would go to a bar and have a great time!!!! And don't forget to drink a toast to him......
2006-12-24 11:20:28 · answer #2 · answered by Nunya B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have the night to yourself. Enjoy it. If that means staying in, then stay in. If it means going to the local bar, then do so. Either way, make the best of it. Don't feel upset that he's with his ex-, he just wants to see his kids (I would assume). Keep an upbeat attitude and who knows, maybe this will be the best Christmas a Jewish lady could ask for!
Don't forget, if you do go to the bar, cops LOVE the season of "giving".
2006-12-24 11:15:15 · answer #3 · answered by Don R 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-23 15:46:00 · answer #4 · answered by vescio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may feel better getting out so you aren't just reminded constantly that he isn't home yet. Go out and have dinner. (or a late snack) You don't have to drink, that could look sad and make you feel worse. If you don't want to venture out then grab a snack and watch some movies and relax.
2006-12-24 11:15:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm is he that close to his ex?i can image a nice family dinner with little kids..sounds like a red flag becareful. Go out but dont get crazy...did he do anything holiday wise with you for your hoiday? im sorry but it sounds weird for him to stay the whole time with grown kids,,,cant they go to his house,,,or include you some how,even if you dont have the same beliefs?. sounds like someone has some hanging on issues to do the whole family dinner thing...
2006-12-24 11:18:30 · answer #6 · answered by heartzz_ablaze 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay home. If you go to a bar(providing if you can find one open) you may find another lost soul and you never know what might happen.
2006-12-24 11:21:26 · answer #7 · answered by cm f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something to do at home. Rent a few movies or something.
2006-12-24 11:13:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have gone with him to the party even if you are Jewish.
2006-12-24 11:16:37 · answer #9 · answered by Gustav 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay home.
2006-12-24 11:17:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋