So my fiance said she needs space and gave the ring back and cut everything off. she said she just wants to have fun and she just got her firts job and wants to stand on her own two feet like i have been able to. I can accept this but she went out with another guy and stayed at his house. She said he is just friends and just met him at work only a week ago..She did say he likes her but he is just friends. She says to me that i am the greates she has ever had and i have been perfect but she just needs time and she is not replacing me and give her space. I have and she left a message sayin do you hate me and im sorry. what do i do? Have i lost her? do i need to move on?
2006-12-24 11:04:38 · 8 answers · asked by James B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry sound like she moved on. good luck
2006-12-24 11:07:46 · answer #1 · answered by heartzz_ablaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on man. I went through something similar. She sounds just like mu ex. I ended up finding out she cheated on me a few times with a guy at work. Woman are wierd and they don't always say what they mean. Till this day my ex keeps trying to get me back but she continous the relationship with the other guy. I'll never take her back. I gave her the benifit of the doubt too. It bit me in the ***. Not every one is as honest and loyal as you. You need to remember that. Make sure that your love for her does not make you blind to obvious signs of infedelity. In my book staying at a guys house who she just met is cheating on you. No matter what she says. Just flip it around. what if you stayed at some chicks house. Trust me man. At first you will miss her and think you won't find any one else. it might even take a few weeks or months for you to stop thinking about her. But just like they say "time will heal" and you will be able to see the bigger picture and that she lost out on more than you. because you remind me of my self. You seem loyal and honest and you give people the benifit of the doubt. She is missing out on a great person and she will regret it. You are just missing out on a cheater. An she will be some one elses problem, not yours. You won't have to worry about where she is or who she is talking to. You will be able top sleep night knowing that you are a good person that did the best you could. You will find some one that deserves you and some one that you can trust. good luck man. It sucks to be in your shoes but I think we all go through it.
2006-12-24 11:17:02 · answer #2 · answered by JV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she is very confused-maybe even scared of commiting right now, but she does sound like she still cares.If I was you I would give her a year to see who she is before she becomes your wife or a mother, It is scary and at least she knows she is not ready at this moment and did not find out after you too wed--some girls just go though the wedding just to have a wedding and do not think of the marriage that is to be after it. Good Luck
2006-12-24 11:15:04 · answer #3 · answered by eeyoree rocks2003 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on dude you must be up her a** all the time and she wants to hang out with other people including guys and is not ready to seetle down with you if she did now it would never work out any how cause she would cheat on you so let her go and you do your own thing too sorry she still wants to be friends with you but not as a wife or whatever
2006-12-24 11:13:56 · answer #4 · answered by miss v8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this sounds harsh, but be grateful this happened before you got married. My opinion is you need to think about moving on, but it's hard to say what could happen. She obviously isn't sure what she wants yet. I know what she's done seems cold but again, better than her waiting until you are married and have kids.
2006-12-24 11:10:24 · answer #5 · answered by freebird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like shes not ready for a relationship that your willing to give her. She's just probably not ready.. If she continues to date around.. Id be looking on moving on with your life. I see a easy let down.
I myself would move on.. but thats me.
2006-12-24 11:18:22 · answer #6 · answered by Mistzy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what she said. Give her some space and be patient. You can't force people to do what you want them to do all the time. Love is not a dictatorship.
Buena suerte!
2006-12-24 11:08:51 · answer #7 · answered by rayediance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her some time to think
2006-12-24 11:10:08 · answer #8 · answered by pizzacrys 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋