We broke up 4 months ago. It was a clean brake, but we did not talk to each other over those 4 months. He contacted me 2 weeks ago out of the blue, and was just different. Everything I wanted him to do then, he does now. He talks to me every day. We are making plans to go out weekly now. He also has this new level of communication that you would not believe. He contacts me first now when we talk. It's like there were never 4 months lost to begin with. We talked about our problems and where we both went wrong and how we are going to be better. We still talk like we are best friends, and I just didn’t think we could pick up right where we left off. We answered each other's questions, but we don't talk about anything that happened with us over those 4 months because it does not matter. So is this true love or did we just really miss each other. Strange things happens sometimes to like when I am thinking about him really hard I normally get a text or an email shortly after.
2006-12-24 10:59:55 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it happens a lot, so i'd say it's normal.
yes, at least it's the beginning of true love, therefore, better communication and understanding.
he obviously wants YOU in his life and is willing to go the distance to have a peaceful coexistence with you.
he probably got out there in the bars, picked up a few chicks, and saw what inconsiderate and selfish people they are. he saw then that he really appreciated YOU.
now get on with it. keep asking questions rather than assuming anything. you never understand what anyone feels or thinks unless you ask. you do not live their lives, you live your own. so you have to communicate clearly what you are about too. and invite him to ask you questions.
may you have much cheer, joy, and happiness!
2006-12-24 11:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by Louiegirl_Chicago 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love is a possibility, but so is the fact that you just missed each other and are lonely for some companionship. You both learned things about each other that no one else knows, and I'm guessing were intimate with one another. Perhaps you both needed the break to gain the right perspective. People have been known to 'grow up' when they get out there and realize that the grass is not necessarily greener on the other side. They decide to put aside pettiness and try to make it work.
The only thing I can suggest is to give it another try. The worst that can happen is its all a temporary reprieve and you'll get back into the same rut as before. If this is the case, then perhaps you'll decide you are just better off being good friends or just letting it go permanently. The best is that you will rediscover each other in a way you never have before, and go on and have a great, loving future together. You're gonna have to remember that it's not always picnics and rosebuds. Real relationships require real work. I hope you both end up in the latter situation, good luck. =)
2006-12-24 19:11:41 · answer #2 · answered by unique2477 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something my Mom and Aunts told me one day a couple years ago while sitting around the table drinking coffee is that you usually go through one really bad breakup before you get to the next level in your relationship (they said before marriage).
That's exactly what happened with my husband and I 7 years ago. His priorities were completely turned around and we ended up breaking up for 3 months without speaking.
He showed up at my doorstep after those 3 months, we had a LONG talk and he explained how he wanted to make changes, etc. and he did!!!
I can't imagine my life without him and am so glad I gave him another chance to make things right. Now we're expecting our first child.
2006-12-24 19:09:51 · answer #3 · answered by tow_matertater 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have realized he missed you in those 4 months and wants to start over. If all of your problems he had before seem to fixed be glad. But I do think you should air out the problems and discuss them and move ahead in your relationship.
2006-12-24 19:08:35 · answer #4 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, he "Changed"? People don't just change, they may behave like they are expected to for a while in order to get what they want..Unless he took some relationship counseling and had a good heart to hear t with his mom and decided he wanted to change for you because you are the "one"... But spontaneous change? I doubt it.
Buyer beware..
2006-12-24 19:07:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So continue developing your relationship and see what happens. sometimes people change for the better, and it seems that you are happy with one anther's company so hopefully it will work out this time...
Good Luck
2006-12-24 19:05:01 · answer #6 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time will tell.sounds like a the honeymoon stage of getting back together. Take it slow,,i think you missed each other of course.
2006-12-24 19:05:25 · answer #7 · answered by heartzz_ablaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds pretty cool to me.... I say go with it. Good luck.
2006-12-24 19:10:00 · answer #8 · answered by jo jo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋