When my brother was drunk he mentioned that his wife said my son wasn't cute. I know every mother thinks their kids all the cutest but I was seriously offended. Now I feel like if I have to see her for Xmas I might either end up starting a huge fight or kicking her ***. What would you do?
2006-12-24 10:44:28 · 22 answers · asked by golden2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First, you must understand that when a man is drunk, you can not believe a word that comes out of his mouth. This is not much different from when he is sober.
You also have to consider that the comment may be taken out of context. She may have said that he wasn't cute in a certain outfit or a "terrible" picture. (And we all have pictures of our kids that look bad!) If it is bothering you that bad, politely ask your sister-in-law about it. That way you get the full story. It would be terrible to ruin Christmas over something that may be just a miscommunication.
2006-12-24 10:51:30 · answer #1 · answered by Katslookup - a Fostering Fool! 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There is never a reason to be offended about anything... Check it...
If someone does you wrong, why be offended? They are wrong and now have to pay a price while you maintain by taking the high road. If someone tells you the truth, why be offended? Take the truth as a learning experience to better yourself. If you ignore the truth, you don't grow.
In your case, this is about your child. Think of it this way, is "everyone in the world" going to think you (or anyone for that matter) are cute? Would you get offended if someone said that you weren't?
It's up to you to know the truth within. Your son is cute to you and that is all that matters. Don't let people piss you off so easily. There are other things that you are going to have to endure and you can't get offended every time someone says something derogatory about you, your family, your children, etc. Let it roll off.
It's normal to be upset, but never let someone 'offend' you. They pull you down to their level when they are wrong, or you miss out on a life's lesson when they are right.
Christmas is over, so move on. She's probably a miserable person anyways; that could well be why she said it. Let her be miserable by herself. DON'T JOIN HER MISERY...
2006-12-26 16:57:52 · answer #2 · answered by A Good Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother was drunk when he said that...maybe your sis-in-law didn't even say that about your son!!! You may be blaming her for something she didn't say or do just because your brother is an idiot when he drinks (he should have never repeated it even IF she did say it). Give her the benefit of the doubt and join the family for the holidays...don't go with a *** kicking attitude because that makes you look more immature than your brother
2006-12-24 11:05:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have children so I can't fully understand. But of course I would be offended if someone said my kid wasn't cute or attractive. It's none of no one's business to be commenting on your kids appearance. I would just ask her about it. And tell her that you were offended and that she owes you and your son an apologise (depending on how old your son is). But if you think it'll result in a huge fight then better to avoid the subject until you can handle it without a huge confrontation.
2006-12-24 10:52:11 · answer #4 · answered by yleemoreno 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the 1st thing you can do is grow up. 2nd, don't let it bother you. 3rd,not every one will think your kidd is cute. 70% at most. ok. you have to appreciate honesty. i have 25-30 niece's and nephews. about half of them was the ugliest babies i ever saw. so ugly they were cute. i told their parents so too. they did not get madd. be the better person and let it go and forget it. and also have to wonder why brother said any thing. is it possible he mite be a trouble maker? just don't pay any attention to it. never take to heart any thing that comes out of a drunks mouth, if they say n some one else said it. OK. i belive a drunk person's word's are really THEIR thoughts when sober. so dont have any problems with sister-inlaw.
2006-12-24 11:04:14 · answer #5 · answered by waljac6108 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
verify mutually with your husband first. He needs to be made unsleeping of how you experience and how they make you experience. He should be offering you with help, and to maintain any preliminary disagreement, can frame of mind SIL and MIL first. If the behaviour persists, then you truly opt to face up for your self (lower back with the backing of your husband). coping with the out-regulations needs to be done tactfully. in the journey that they don't say hi to you, make a level of being the only to say hi, and substances them a hug, this may little question, cause them to uncomfortable, yet provides you with the area of ability. at the same time as MIL comments on 'his' domicile etc, make a level of turning the 'his' into 'ours' in the course of the verbal substitute. Be sturdy and assert your self interior the pecking order - undergo in concepts, he chosen you as his existence significant different.
2016-10-16 21:29:30 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I might do the same thing. Sorry I was no help, but your sister in law isn't helping either. I would stop associating with her . I don't care who she is. When other family members find out why y'all are feuding I'm sure they will understand where your coming from. No grown up should ever call a child ugly.
2006-12-24 10:51:36 · answer #7 · answered by Portia P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, I'd only be slightly offended and definately wouldnt be so kindergarten about it as to use the term "kick her ***". Youre really being quite ridiculous. Have you ever considered the fact that maybe your son is not as cute as you think?
P.s Why do you care so much what she thinks of your son? And how do you know that your brother was correct in what he said? He was intoxicated.
2006-12-24 10:50:27 · answer #8 · answered by Stace 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first i would ask your brother if he said it out of being drunk or if she really said that and why she did. if she really said it, then ask her why she said it. tell her exactly what you said above, that all parents believe their children the most beautiful, as she must feel too. tell both of them that you'd rather have peace in the family not just for xmas but the whole year through, and to please not say insulting things to you anymore. wish them happiness too. be diplomatic instead of having your emotions overcome you, perhaps turning it all into a fight.
it's so irritating to learn when family members do not speak to one another for so long that one could drop dead in the process. it is very sad.
christmas is in honor of christ. christ wouldn't advise anything but love between all of you. think about that.
2006-12-24 10:49:53 · answer #9 · answered by Louiegirl_Chicago 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forgive her! While what she said was very hurtful, that may not have been her intention, or your husband could have misunderstood what she said. Try giving her the benefit of the doubt. We've all said things that we didn't mean, or things that were misunderstood by others. Be the better person!
2006-12-24 10:48:56 · answer #10 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋