how do i show her that i have changed if she dosent talk to me?

Question

thank you for all the answers.....it helps........and i realize that if its meant to be then it will happen......but the way i feel right now and for the past 2 weeks.......im pretty sure that she is the one for me.....i love this girl with all my heart.....i didnt think i did until we broke up this time........and now i cant eat, sleep or anything.......no matter what i do she is on my mind........how do i show her i am trying to change?,.....give me some ideals on what to do........thank you all so much

Answer 1

All you can really do is be her friends, be there for her if she wants to talk, ask her how she is goin and stuff. If she seems to respond in a positive way maybe ask her out for dinner and tell her how u feel.

Answer 2

It's hard to change in two weeks. It's been proven that to break a bad habit or to obtain a good habit it takes 5 weeks for the human mind. I'm not sure what she is wanting you to change, but if it's who you are as a person, it may be time to move on anyway. If she wants you to change some unhealthy habits that hurt you or the people around you that love and care about you, then I say the only thing you can do is keep doing "good" in your life, and in a month or so, write her a letter, maybe do something that she wouldnt expect you to do. Actions DO speak louder than words. And if she see's you've become a better person and see's you really love her, she'll come back. After all, people don't get mad and upset because you love them, they get mad and upset when they've been hurt by you because they care about and love you too.

Answer 3

Either she'll see you or hear of you through mutual contacts.
The changes you're seeking to make can be accompanied by an air of self confidence. Make your healing a thing that she doesn't see, save that for alone time, or times with close ones. If you press her to respond to you it'll likely have the effect of putting her off. By leaving her alone the opportunity can rise for her to wonder 'whassup' with you, maybe become truly curious about your welfare. For you not to come across as needy, you have to learn to get the needs she previously met (or the needs you thought she met) satisfied from somebody or somewhere else. That is the challenge of healing in relationships and their breakups. Very hard, but it is, after all, our own inner growth at stake, and we have to face it, pain and all.
Try to think of activities you can get some enjoyment out of and develop the habit of enjoying your own company and personal progress. You'll find you're managing to cope, and the chance for others to come into your life is a real possibility. Take heart-the world really is filled with lovers nursing broken hearts. Almost everybody goes through it, and can empathize. Some day you'll be in a different space, stronger and more positive, and you'll have a good hopeful sensation about falling in love again. Please try to tend to yourself in an upbuilding way. Love to you.

Answer 4

When she talks about change, you need to find out what it is that she's talking about specifically. Are we talking about holding down a job or kissing her behind? Get specifics, weigh out whether or not she is being unreasonable or if you need to be accountable for some major screw ups. Remember that actions speak louder than words. Demonstrate the changes if she's right. Worst case scenario, if you find a grain of truth in what she is wanting you to change--and change it--you'll have grown as a person.

Answer 5

Insist to her she will be very happy when she knows you have changed. Try not to repeat the same error and you will be good in your life.

Answer 6

i guess at mature when ur around her. but do NOT make her jealous. just act like you've moved on. it worked for me once.

Answer 7

All you can do is tell her how you feel and let nature take its course.