Family emergency!!!?

Question

My friend Mary has been spilling her guts out to me lately and she has a family crisis that only she knows about. She caught her dad watching really sick uncensored stuff eversince her brother got a new high defenition television with the 900 or so channels. Her mom works the night shift so she has no clue about it but shes been thinking about telling her ,so her dad would stop it ,but she can see that her parents are already on the brink of getting a divorce. She says shes been having nightmares about her father and the things he does behind his familys back. She dispises her own father and never reponds when he tells her he loves her...I belive she truly does hate him. Its a heart breaking sight and now shes asking me for advice,but unfortunately i have nothing...so what do i say?

By the way for everyone who says i can do nothing for the family....I cant do that because this familys home is my home away from home they've practically taken me in as one of their own

and her patents have been together for 30 years now and all throughout those 30 years theyve argued like crazy but theyre still together

Answer 1

Guys watch that kind of stuff; it's almost a given. It's going to seem creepy (of course) that her dad's doing it, but telling him won't necessarily help. It is really sad that she doesn't believe her had loves her because of this, so try asking her to think about the number of her guy friends that probably do it too, and that just because they do doesn't make them a dishonest person. It is disgusting to find out about this stuff, but it happens (3 of my friends know that their dads watch it) and if she tries not to think about it, the nightmares should stop, and she might even forget it for the most part eventually.

Answer 2

Nothing. You are not a trained counselor. And should things really hit the fan, you could find yourself blamed. That could bring on a lot more trouble than you can imagine. Just tell your friend you are sorry to hear she's so unhappy, and if she asks again for advice, tell her flat out "I'm no competent to advise you; talk to your priest/pastor or a school counselor or a trusted relative". Then stick with that. It's the best thing for you, and in reality, you cannot help with her family problems.

Answer 3

This is tricky. Her mother has a right to know, but, getting involved in any relationship that is already on the rocks can be risky. You should always remain neutral to both people involved otherwise you could create a flood gate full of problems to open up and cause stress on you.

The best advise is to tell her to tell someone who talks to her mother a lot...like an aunt on the mothers side that she feels close to, or a best friend to the mother, someone like that. That way she can express her feelings and let someone know what's going on and she wont have to get in the middle of it.

Answer 4

The only thing i can really say is that if her father watches that stuff and is married her parents will not last much longer together anyways

Answer 5

Men have a fetish with porn, I was married to somebody like that at one time and couldn't understand it. If their on the brinks of divorce then what difference would it make? She knows what kind of person he is or their wouldn't be any hidden lies...try and let it go honey...I can't stand men like that.

Answer 6

You say it is none of her business what her father does. It is not her place to judge him. She should try being kind enough to acknowledge that this man loves her despite the fact that she despises him and she should seek to repair their relationship. On no account should she tell anyone what she saw.

Answer 7

Well, she could confront her father about the issue. But, does she wanna b in trouble?

Answer 8

what gives you the right to tell the world of only to people in a secret crime?( problem )


Hmm stay out of her/fathers's face!